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So after dating for a bit on the dating apps I have noticed a few things....
They myth men talk about online that woman hit the wall at 30 is not true. I'm almost 40 and the men my age or older on apps lets just say it's extremely clear that they do not look after themselves in any way. They tend to look more like 60 then 40.
All these men keep saying woman like jerks & not nice guys. Its not true these men have a deficet in something say confidence or inexperience in how to speak or communicate with woman. Men who they consider 'jerks' just know how to persue and communicate better or understand how the dating game works.
A lot of men have a gap of how things are in reality and how they think things are. I have noticed this in a large number of men and they don't do it on purpose, they just don't have an accurate picture of themselves or their life. I guess I am a bit of a realist in this department in how I am as a whole so as fds already state's always look at actions.
Many men joke about woman being alone with their cats and being spinsters but most single women I know are thriving in life with a community around them and many of the single men I have encountered have no community around them. I think its the opposite and I think its sad that so many are so disconnected and lonely.
The men who have worried about being used for money or about gold diggers have always been the ones on an average income or less.
It seems there is a big disconnect on understanding that a relationship is built and it takes time, effort and good communication. A good percent of men in my experience on the apps want a relationship but they cant step up and do the things that are required consistently to start and maintain & hold a healthy relationship. Or they are so afraid of deep connection and so disconnected from their innerselves that they will never likely have a deeply connected, healthy and safe mind blowing relationship.
Those who talk about sex excessively or brag about their skills(ew) are the worst in that department as I believe that there is a quiet confidence with men who are good in bed. They don't need to say a single thing as the proof is in the pudding.
Men seem to have this idea that single mothers are left by their kids Dads but all the mums I know who are single left their husbands for very relevant reasons and this is evident in divorce statistics.
And adding one extra point some men neg. Imo opinion this just shows insecurity on their behalf and Im not a fan of someone who has to put someone down to feel better about themselves.
Lastly there are a subset of men who want to be treated like woman. I am quite feminine naturally and find this really unattractive and don't quite understand why they want to sit there but watch for this early as its def not for me!!!
Feel free to add your two cents below also!
All of this. Except I don't think most men want relationships- that is just something they say because they know most women do. Most men (especially on OLD) are trying to live out their pornsick fantasies.
They want the profits of s r/ship, not the r/ship itself. The mommymcbangmaid without any responsibility on their side.
the only reason i don't say men are simpletons is because they are way too powerful. somehow they are ble to use some intelligence to dominate and destroy.
I'm not in your age range or dating at all, bit I'm continually shocked whenever a man tells me his age when the topic comes up. Like he looks early 40s then suddenly mentions his Facebook in high school. WTF! Or he's balding but papers say he graduated in 2018. It's crazy out there.
well the thing about single moms leaving the husbands cause they are abusive is i guess people think wives/moms are supposed to endure and tolerate even abusive husbands. while my dad isn't abusive, my mom has had to put up with a lot of crap from my dad just to get anywhere in life. And that's just cause they need the two incomes. Anyways, I notice a trend in the older traditional folks like my mom always tease me because they think I can't "endure" harsh things or they think it's a catholic trait to endure bullshit AKA bad partners.
we are not here and meant to endure terrible men. they just flip the idea to make it the women seeming weak for not putting up with abuse, violence, crap behavior. not really sure what they are proud of by saying this to women?