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Hi Ladies,
Should we mention we're celibate to a guy we're dating? One scrote had the nerve to bring up his STD status on a third date to try and prep me for sex (hes Herpes type 2 positive) and I said I'm celibate and he said 'wow that must be hard to do.'
Absolutely not. Don't use the word celibate. Just say "I'll have sex when I find the right person." Men think celibacy is political. They will demand an explanation, which they are not owed.
I would say I'm celibate, definitely. There needs to be consequences for treating women like shit, taking away our human rights to our own bodily autonomy and reproductive justice in general, etc. Lysistrata, baby.
Also this dude really said "wow that must be hard to do" when he's got STD's because he can't stop fucking? lmao the jokes write themselves.
Bring it up early, but never forget, even if the guy keeps dating you, he'll have sex with someone else on the side.
I have been celibate since June 2021. I would not tell men I was celibate,because that words has too many stereotypes and misunderstandings. For me, I am waiting for the right man for me to have sex. I refuse to let anyone use me anymore. I have let too many undeserving males close to me. They will either meet my standards or I'll stay alone forever. But when you tell a man you're celibate, he immediately misconstrues that, and asks questions he's not entitled to ask. Just say, "I am waiting for the right man."
Nice of him to tell that info early. I don't see it wrong of him to do since his health condition would be dealbreaker for most. You don't want to find that info months later after you already got into relationship.
Celibate or A-sexual. Sure, it'll save, depending where you are located some countries it's the law to tell people you have an STD. I'm all for saving time though, bring it up early.
I assume you plan to be celibate until you're married or at least in a serious, monogamous relationship. If that's the case, then you do not need to use the term "celibate". You are simply waiting for the right relationship. As others have mentioned, this is none of his business until you become more involved.
If, after a while, he brings it up, you can tell him the truth: you're waiting for the right relationship with the right man at the right time. If he doesn't want to wait, he can go elsewhere. Any man who is truly interested in you would wait.