Share situations and scenarios you should put a man through to vet him!

Outside of FDS style content and typical handbook stuff (like "blood in the water", etc...), I'll tell you some weird scenarios that were a dead giveaway for me or some things I learned over time are great vetting tools:

1. If the guy walks out of sync with me at all, meaning too far head, trailing behind, no concept of where I'm at on the street, etc. These men don't GAF about you and would never do that with a girl they genuinely cared about. When I see it now, I know it is a bad sign.

2. This one is pretty obvious, but if you are telling them a problem (any type: financial, emotional, whatever...) and he does not immediately offer a solution to fix it for you....Boy, byeeeee.

3. How they treat "pretty" women vs. maybe not so "pretty." If he's too kind (player with a wandering eye) or too mean (only sees good looking women as valuable) either one is a bad sign. He should be pretty neutral and he should be decent toward all other females.

4. He needs to not only impress me, but impress my dog, too. Haha. If he never gets my dog gifts, etc., that's a nope from me. If he cares about me, he would know how much my dog means to me and treat him like gold as well. You can think of this in other ways outside of pets.... he should be working to impress the people you care about and would die for. He needs to want to die for them too, or we shouldn't be interested.

   
   

The only tests I give men is acting pretty disinterested in the beginning, because I don't chase princess boys. I need to be sure he chases and doesn't expect to get chased.

My other BIG one is to tell them "No" about something early on. Doesn't matter what it is and I make it a point to not explain myself. You can learn a lot about a man from how he takes this word. Does he try to change your mind? Does he want to work to understand your perspective? Does he belittle you for not going along with whatever scenario he has made up in his head? Does he get angry? Does he take it in stride? Very important how he responds to your "No."

I don't go out of my way to put them in certain situations, but I observe them VERY closely like a science experiment in a petri dish... Nothing they do will go unnoticed by me. They're under a telescope, microscope, a magnifying glass, and a hidden hot mic. I'm also running background checks on them and the people in their lives. So... ya know. Good luck, buddy. LOL.

Great suggestions so far. Personally, I like to see them in a formal setting (like fine dining, opera, a wedding etc.) at some point. Does he dress for the occasion/dresscode and behave appropriately there (table manners, "unwritten rules" etc.)? Does he get bored or cranky at some point? Does he drink too much and embarrass himself? Is he capable of polite smalltalk and knows which topics to steer clear of in these settings?

I've seen too many beautiful, classywomen embarrassed by their sweatpants or jeans wearing, tacky scrotes to take any chances there.

I never put men in “artificial” scenarios to test them. Artificial settings tend to yield artificial results.

One thing I like to do is observe a man when he’s drunk in the natural course of a night out. In the U.S., it’s a very easy thing to do, as most American men drink, and alcohol is everywhere.

You’d be amazed at how quickly men reveal their real thoughts/mindsets while intoxicated. Some turn moody, violent, insulting, belligerent, sour, sulky, whiny. Others start making rapey comments, really piling on the redpill shit, remarking on random women’s bodies, claiming Michelle Obama is a man, etc. Some don’t know their limits and will embarrass you by throwing up all over the street and passing out (yes, I’ve seen this on first dates).

I’ve also seen good behavior from men who were intoxicated/hungover. If a man doesn’t feel so great physically but is still doing his best to treat you well and watch out for your well-being, I consider it a plus.

Encourage them to drink to the point of revealing their real selves. Don’t get drunk yourself, of course.

For better or worse, alcohol cuts through the fakeness real quick.

• Is he in contact with an ex? Immediate no. I don't date men with kids for this reason.

• Does he openly plan dates with other women while courting you? Block him. Sure, if you had a quick coffee and nothing happened, but if you kissed for hours and he tells you he wants to see others, abort.

• Same with him not planning a date on the first few days of chatting on apps and telling you he has other matches.

• If he wants to go 50/50 and/or expectd you to travel to his town on a first date you're just one of many dates he has. He will make you compete, so run.

• Any mention of Jordan Peterson, redpill stuff.

• Any mention of him being woke, a " feminist" (aka he is grooming you to let your guard down)

I cant think of a fake scenario, but watch how "house trained" he is. Does he know how to do basic stuff? E.g common sense stuff like wet towels DONT get scrumpled up on a hook. If he doesnt know how to keep a house(or himself) well, he's probably been over-mothered and you'll end up doing everything for him and he'll become a major burden and source of frustration down the line.

I don't think you need to orchestrate scenarios to test a man's behavior if you're in tune with your entitlement and moral compass. Just let your inner child take the wheel and go with your gut. Anything else sounds like too much of a chore and my inner child can't be bothered. Trust your instincts, you got this! 💪 💄