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I recently cut off my reliable, tidy, loving and hard-working but also whiney, immature and passive aggressive boyfriend who lacks self-awareness (thanks to this community! Everyone else tells me to just take him, there’s no perfect man) and am now on Bumble. Living in Germany (we don’t have any dating culture let alone small talk culture, so the men approaching me are few) online dating seems to be the appropriate thing to do. But it’s a depressing experience. Not only do their boring profiles put me off and many put in a higher education than they really have, they don’t make any effort to reach out on a consistent basis. Are they waiting for me to reach out 50% of the time? I am actually expecting them to initiate contact every day. Is this too high of an expectation? If they don’t reach out for a few days and I start feeling disappoint/ bad, I block and delete inmidiately. Is this too cruel lol?
The other day a guy asked about talking and I texted him I was free (for a video chat) and he responded two hours later he was on the phone with an aunt in Berlin who is tough to hang up on (aka her girlfriends there) so I blocked and deleted immiately. Am I too ruthless to cut them off at my first feeling of „meh“?
Germany is a absolutely terrible for dating lots of coffee date offer walk ins the park men are obsessed with hikes in Germany why would I go on a hike with a stranger . A lot of men in Germany are very emotionally stunted and have issues . 50/50 is rampant women in Germany are also a bit clueless about their value and how much value they have as a woman that’s what I felt living here . Dating scene is not very warm here I know a lot of men in Germany just being with their gf so she can pay half the rent 🙄🙄😵💫