Revenge advice please

these kind of posts are taking years off my life...

Listen, the most effective way to get your revenge is by IGNORING HIM AND BLOCKING HIM. Ghost his ass, don't even send a message. You think that fucking his friend is going to hurt him in the same way as him fucking one of your friends would hurt you? Ha! That's not how it works. Men do not operate like us.

The best way to hurt a man is to ignore him, delete him from your life, ghost him, pretend he never existed, make him think that this relationship was a fever dream and MOVE ON. I can't stress this enough, the only revenge you can get in this case is to move on. Nothing will hurt him more, fucking his friend is a pathetic highschool move that will do nothing for you. Both, him and his friend, will laugh at your expense later whe he gets over the ego burn. They'll both talk about that "stupid slutty gf" he use to have and laugh. Men bond over humiliating and hurting women .

So no, as much as you think you're going to get your revenge, you're just going to expose yourself to his male friend whose loyalty lies on your bf, not on you. I know you're probably going to do it anyway and ignore our advice, so good luck to you.

The best revenge is a life well lived. Actual revenge like suggest is taking the poison yourself and expecting the other person to die.

I swear that OP is a man. It’s so obvious and you can tell from the language being used. That’s how low value stupid men think of revenge, they only think of their dick that doesn't work most of the time. We FDSers treat our bodies like inclusive beautiful gardens and not public parks. Go bark on Reddit.

I know it sounds too easy to be true, but literally pretending a guy doesn’t exist and having zero reaction to him will wound him the most. He’ll never get over that. Except you want to go the other route of suing him for assault in civil court or filing a police report.

The other guy does not have any loyalty to you. And he doesn’t seem to have much integrity anyway. They’ll eventually bond over labeling you a slut anyway. Plus men talk, and this may hurt your long term dating prospects with hv men in this network.

This post reeks of scrote spam.

Make sure you’ve got all your things from his place then block and delete his ass. Then live your best life. I can’t believe you’re asking this question here. You should’ve called the cops on him when he hit you. Instant karma. But, fucking his friend on purpose to hurt his ego will only make you look bad; he’ll probably spin it to make sure you look like the asshole. It’s not worth it. Walk away with your dignity

Bear in mind that no matter what you do, he's going to wildly distort the events when he lies about you to everyone to make himself sound like the victim. Also bear in mind that people will make endless excuses for horrific male behaviour, but will endlessly demonize women for any perceived wrongdoing. With this in mind, I would advise against cheating. Wait until AFTER breaking up with him to sleep with this other guy. I'd say break up with him by telling him that he's proven through his actions that he's just a weak, pathetic excuse for a man of little to no value and he's unworthy of your time. Literally just say that. Keep it short and sweet. Send it in a text, because he sounds like the type to get violent in person. Make sure he's read it, then immediately block him everywhere without giving him a chance to respond. And then tell EVERYONE what he did to you. He will lose his fucking mind being dismissed like that. THEN go fuck the hot friend.

I don't think you'll get any support from this community on revenge.

Revenge might seem like a way to make you feel better, and maybe for a moment it will. But ultimately, you're only going to be hurting yourself. It's a false sense of power and control.

I know it might be hard, but focusing on you and not him is the best way to move forward.

Girl... If this isn't a troll post, you seriously need to reconsider your options here. I know you're probably in an awful mental state right now. Being abused like that completely removes your sense of physical integrity, and in a way our bodies stop feeling like they really belong to us. Revindicating your sexuality by sleeping with his friend might sound like a quick way to give you back power over your body, but it's only going to hurt you on the long run. The truth is, you don't know this other man. His loyalty is entirely to your soon to be ex, not to you. For all you know, he'll abuse you too for trying to seduce him. Not to mention that your abusive ex might retaliate physically, and this decision is actually seriously life-threatening if you consider that. As everyone here said, get out without making a show of it. Call your friends, get help to move your stuff from the house when he's not there. You'll leave with your life and your integrity intact, and that's more important than making a small man feel crappy for a day (until he goes out drinking with his buddies, shit talks you and forgets about it). You need to prioritize your safety and mental well-being right now. Therapy might be a good option to deal with any trauma related to this incident. Sleeping with a random (possibly dangerous) man is the last thing you need right now. The only thing you're going to give your ex is a story to tell as an excuse to why he beat you up. Men are 100% capable of going "see what I had to deal with? A slut! No wonder she made me lose control, she brought out the worst in me". He'll get sympathy for having physically beaten you if you do that, make no mistake. You're not "being the bigger person" by just leaving. You're being a person who respects herself enough to not stoop to his level. You're prioritizing your health and safety over his feelings, which is something he failed to do. You need to love yourself more than that abusive asshole did, otherwise you'll become your own abuser. Stay safe, and good luck.

Troll. Grow the fuck up.

Get the friend and kill your reputation and/or your life. Is this what you want? He has already put hands on you. Do not poke the bear and think the other guy will see how great you are. These two guys will most likely get together and see you as the common denominator. The object of your desire will burn a hole through you then discard you. Even if you met the other guy years later and he told you he would have kept you safe do not buy it. Stop thinking that you have the opportunity to payback for what he physically and verbally did to you with one of HIS FRIENDS. This is not a movie where you get the revenge and walk off into the sunset with your new man. Time to move on. Save your life and pride. BLOCK AND DELETE HIM ON/OFFLINE.

F*cking his friend will only VALIDATE his bad treatment and violence towards you. That will prove to him that he was right to beat on you. File a police report, get a restraining order, block and delete him, get a gun and go learn how to use it. That's your best revenge. The other way will only make him think he was right about you.

Revenge needs to be clever for full impact.

Fucking his friend ain't it.

You better be getting your shit together to leave (if you haven't already). In the meantime, try stuff like this:

- hiding raw chicken breast in his car so after you've left, he won't be able to find the source of the smell and he won't be driving girls around. Ditto for his place.

- stop doing things he won't notice until later (refilling etc)

- swap his shampoo for Nair

- sign his email up for mailing lists

Get clever and creative. Letting some guy stick his dick in you does NOT benefit you in any capacity.

It seems very unlikely for a victim of abuse to think about revenge immediately. That's usually how abusers and scrotes think. This is a poorly made troll post.

If he already laid hands on you, do you really think it’s going to be safe to fuck his friend??? What if he escalates and hurts you? This is not worth it. Listen to the advice that’s been given to you. Please.

I agree with the other comments here but I would also say that this seems like a dangerous idea, if he’s already hit you once how do you know that doing this won’t escalate things? Better to stay safe and get out of there and focus on your own happiness.

You can never punish him as well as he can punish himself. And that’s all you need to know.

Revenge shows that you still have passion. These fuckers like it when you hate them, b/c it means you still have emotions towards them. Read that again: revenge plots won't make him feel bad, it will just make him feel like he's just "that powerful" 🙄.

Men don't fear attention from you, they fear obvilion. Abandonment. Indifference.

Throw him into the void sis.

Hell no. Get out of there before he hurts you even further. he sounds predatory and screwing his friend will only probably anger him to the point of doing something worse to you.

you need to decenter men and center your own safety instead

Don't fuck his friend. Fuck his credit.

I’ll reply as if this is a real post, although it doesn’t seem like it. Sleeping with his friend makes no sense. You said in comments that you think it would remain secret, which is no revenge. If it did not, this would just be used to rationalize the previous physical abuse or say “sour grapes”. Obviously you gain zero from a random hookup. For practical self preservation purposes, makes no sense to do anything at all that could possibly put you in contact with him ever again. Don’t think about “getting” revenge. The best revenge is living well. There is nothing more hurtful to someone who wanted to possess and devalue you than for them to see you successful and happy without them. Focus on improving your self esteem, mindset, and learning to be a high value woman, identify good men, and avoid coercive men.

don't cheat on him. his friend will treat you like shit, he will treat you like shit, ou'll feel like shit. he's violent and you might get killed over this. your safety must ALWAYS come first. just pour laxatives in his drink and record a tik tok of him shitting his pants or something.

ignore his ass, then create a fake profile on some dating app to catfish him. ask him out for a date and when he arrives, he finds a melon with a hole in it and a note that says "have fun, you pathetic asshole"

men hate when women laugh at them. and the best part: he will never know it was you. he'll just be insanely angry at what he thinks it's a stranger. you'll be safe and he'll be humiliated.

I don't support fucking his friend for revenge. It's better to block and delete, and then live your life. I think that this poster is a man. However, here are some petty ideas in case you are actually female.

1. Permanently ruin his YouTube/ Netflix/Twitter algorithms by unsubscribing him from all his favorite channels, and then subscribe him to channels that focus on anger management, healthy high value masculinity, makeup channels, clean with me, etc.

2. Spray fart spray all over his car, clothes, etc. That stuff is STRONG.

3. Buy brown dye and put shit stains on his some of his underwear. You can write "woman beater and abuser " on the waistband of all his underwear so either he has to get new ones or show it to the whole football team in the locker room. He will know it was you though so be careful with destruction of property. Plus he is violent so BE CAREFUL.

4. Sign up his email and number for scientology, insurance, telemarketers, etc.

5. Put up QR codes around your school/campus with no explanation. When people scan it, they will be directed to a website explaining everything he did. Again, be careful with defamation lawsuits here. If you didn't report the abuse, then he could sue you.

6. A lot of cities have FB groups called "Are we dating the same guy?" Warn other woman about him.

Honestly, I think having sex with his friend would more likely put you in harm’s way than give you any satisfaction. You already know your bf is capable of violence. What if he comes after you? What if his friend turns out to be a scrote too? Do you want to give sex to a scrote just to get even with another scrote? Worst case, your bf comes after you, or this new guy turns out to be a problem, and now you have two violent men in your life. Best case scenario, it destroys their friendship, but they’re still gonna laugh and call you a “slut” behind your back. These men will always put their bros first. It sounds too simple, but the thing that hurts the male ego the most is being ignored by women. Ghost him. Warn all your friends about him, and never speak to him or even acknowledge his existence again. Don’t even give him a break-up speech. He knows what he did. I understand the desire to get even, but trust me: this will hurt him more than anything else, and will keep you safe. He thinks he has you in the bag, and that anything that happens now is his call. He probably already wants to end things on his own terms. Ghosting him takes the entire matter out of his hands, and puts his ego in check. Arrogant men hate that. To him, any interaction is good interaction, as long as he still has you paying attention to him. But if you deny him that, it’ll forever eat away at his confidence. He’ll always wonder why he didn’t get an explanation, and wonder what you’re doing now. It will eat away at him like a cancer. And speaking of cancer, that’s what you need to treat this fool as. You don’t save cancerous cells so you can humiliate them later. You completely and cleanly cut them out of your body before they cause more damage. Because without connection to your body, they will die. That is what will happen to this man’s ego when you stop interacting with him. Be safe!

This is not revenge. He’ll laugh it up with the friend later and call you how they’ll both see you. This will not earn you any dignity.

CHANGE YOUR PROFILE NAME!!! Is that your real one? Men might find you irl

Please don't do that to his friend. Imagine if some guy was just dating and having sex with you for revenge against someone else? Don't use anyone that way, please. Don't hurt anyone else.

I smell moss.

He laid his hands on you so that means he is dangerous when confronted. Get the fuck away from him! Do it covertly. Let him go to work thinking you will be there when he gets home but come home to an emptied out place with no idea where to find out. Cut off all contact, eliminate any joint accounts etc. Beingco pletely off limits to him will upset him in the way that you want.

Ghosting, blocking, deleting, and living well are the best revenge against a man. (Winks in read the handbook 🙌💞)

Sleeping with his friend is not going to do it let me tell you. This man hit you, he clearly doesnt care about you. It doesnt matter to him if you sleep with his friend. In a couple of months he will high five him for "getting to hit that" anyways because men do this all the time. These type of men especially dont feel things the way we do, it seriously wont matter to him. If anything he might hurt you again if you are still around him. I am 100% sure you will regret this because he wont think oh no she broke my heart by cheating on me! All he will think is that you are disgusting and deserve to be treated like shit. Its not true but this is how he sees you and you know it because of this intense reaction you are having.

I was in a similar position once and I can tell you, they cant stand it when you move on. They cannot handle it when you dont care about them. You cheating shows you care. But he will get the message that he doesnt matter when you move on. Showing him that you can live without him and have a better life for it.

I know this post is a little older so you probably did whatever you wanted to do, this explanation is for everyone who wants to do the same. I hope you didnt do it tho :/

The best revenge is getting him out of your life and crying no tears about it. It hurts them MOST to feel irrelevant.

My personal revenge is to get with the 1 guy he was always wary of the entire relationship 😏 (haven’t done it - it’s much more fun to make him THINK I have)