Revenge advice please

these kind of posts are taking years off my life...

Listen, the most effective way to get your revenge is by IGNORING HIM AND BLOCKING HIM. Ghost his ass, don't even send a message. You think that fucking his friend is going to hurt him in the same way as him fucking one of your friends would hurt you? Ha! That's not how it works. Men do not operate like us.

The best way to hurt a man is to ignore him, delete him from your life, ghost him, pretend he never existed, make him think that this relationship was a fever dream and MOVE ON. I can't stress this enough, the only revenge you can get in this case is to move on. Nothing will hurt him more, fucking his friend is a pathetic highschool move that will do nothing for you. Both, him and his friend, will laugh at your expense later whe he gets over the ego burn. They'll both talk about that "stupid slutty gf" he use to have and laugh. Men bond over humiliating and hurting women .

So no, as much as you think you're going to get your revenge, you're just going to expose yourself to his male friend whose loyalty lies on your bf, not on you. I know you're probably going to do it anyway and ignore our advice, so good luck to you.

The best revenge is a life well lived. Actual revenge like suggest is taking the poison yourself and expecting the other person to die.

I swear that OP is a man. It’s so obvious and you can tell from the language being used. That’s how low value stupid men think of revenge, they only think of their dick that doesn't work most of the time. We FDSers treat our bodies like inclusive beautiful gardens and not public parks. Go bark on Reddit.

I know it sounds too easy to be true, but literally pretending a guy doesn’t exist and having zero reaction to him will wound him the most. He’ll never get over that. Except you want to go the other route of suing him for assault in civil court or filing a police report.

The other guy does not have any loyalty to you. And he doesn’t seem to have much integrity anyway. They’ll eventually bond over labeling you a slut anyway. Plus men talk, and this may hurt your long term dating prospects with hv men in this network.

This post reeks of scrote spam.

Make sure you’ve got all your things from his place then block and delete his ass. Then live your best life. I can’t believe you’re asking this question here. You should’ve called the cops on him when he hit you. Instant karma. But, fucking his friend on purpose to hurt his ego will only make you look bad; he’ll probably spin it to make sure you look like the asshole. It’s not worth it. Walk away with your dignity

Bear in mind that no matter what you do, he's going to wildly distort the events when he lies about you to everyone to make himself sound like the victim. Also bear in mind that people will make endless excuses for horrific male behaviour, but will endlessly demonize women for any perceived wrongdoing. With this in mind, I would advise against cheating. Wait until AFTER breaking up with him to sleep with this other guy. I'd say break up with him by telling him that he's proven through his actions that he's just a weak, pathetic excuse for a man of little to no value and he's unworthy of your time. Literally just say that. Keep it short and sweet. Send it in a text, because he sounds like the type to get violent in person. Make sure he's read it, then immediately block him everywhere without giving him a chance to respond. And then tell EVERYONE what he did to you. He will lose his fucking mind being dismissed like that. THEN go fuck the hot friend.

I don't think you'll get any support from this community on revenge.

Revenge might seem like a way to make you feel better, and maybe for a moment it will. But ultimately, you're only going to be hurting yourself. It's a false sense of power and control.

I know it might be hard, but focusing on you and not him is the best way to move forward.

Girl... If this isn't a troll post, you seriously need to reconsider your options here. I know you're probably in an awful mental state right now. Being abused like that completely removes your sense of physical integrity, and in a way our bodies stop feeling like they really belong to us. Revindicating your sexuality by sleeping with his friend might sound like a quick way to give you back power over your body, but it's only going to hurt you on the long run. The truth is, you don't know this other man. His loyalty is entirely to your soon to be ex, not to you. For all you know, he'll abuse you too for trying to seduce him. Not to mention that your abusive ex might retaliate physically, and this decision is actually seriously life-threatening if you consider that. As everyone here said, get out without making a show of it. Call your friends, get help to move your stuff from the house when he's not there. You'll leave with your life and your integrity intact, and that's more important than making a small man feel crappy for a day (until he goes out drinking with his buddies, shit talks you and forgets about it). You need to prioritize your safety and mental well-being right now. Therapy might be a good option to deal with any trauma related to this incident. Sleeping with a random (possibly dangerous) man is the last thing you need right now. The only thing you're going to give your ex is a story to tell as an excuse to why he beat you up. Men are 100% capable of going "see what I had to deal with? A slut! No wonder she made me lose control, she brought out the worst in me". He'll get sympathy for having physically beaten you if you do that, make no mistake. You're not "being the bigger person" by just leaving. You're being a person who respects herself enough to not stoop to his level. You're prioritizing your health and safety over his feelings, which is something he failed to do. You need to love yourself more than that abusive asshole did, otherwise you'll become your own abuser. Stay safe, and good luck.

Troll. Grow the fuck up.

Get the friend and kill your reputation and/or your life. Is this what you want? He has already put hands on you. Do not poke the bear and think the other guy will see how great you are. These two guys will most likely get together and see you as the common denominator. The object of your desire will burn a hole through you then discard you. Even if you met the other guy years later and he told you he would have kept you safe do not buy it. Stop thinking that you have the opportunity to payback for what he physically and verbally did to you with one of HIS FRIENDS. This is not a movie where you get the revenge and walk off into the sunset with your new man. Time to move on. Save your life and pride. BLOCK AND DELETE HIM ON/OFFLINE.

F*cking his friend will only VALIDATE his bad treatment and violence towards you. That will prove to him that he was right to beat on you. File a police report, get a restraining order, block and delete him, get a gun and go learn how to use it. That's your best revenge. The other way will only make him think he was right about you.

Revenge needs to be clever for full impact.

Fucking his friend ain't it.

You better be getting your shit together to leave (if you haven't already). In the meantime, try stuff like this:

- hiding raw chicken breast in his car so after you've left, he won't be able to find the source of the smell and he won't be driving girls around. Ditto for his place.

- stop doing things he won't notice until later (refilling etc)

- swap his shampoo for Nair

- sign his email up for mailing lists

Get clever and creative. Letting some guy stick his dick in you does NOT benefit you in any capacity.

It seems very unlikely for a victim of abuse to think about revenge immediately. That's usually how abusers and scrotes think. This is a poorly made troll post.

If he already laid hands on you, do you really think it’s going to be safe to fuck his friend??? What if he escalates and hurts you? This is not worth it. Listen to the advice that’s been given to you. Please.

I agree with the other comments here but I would also say that this seems like a dangerous idea, if he’s already hit you once how do you know that doing this won’t escalate things? Better to stay safe and get out of there and focus on your own happiness.

You can never punish him as well as he can punish himself. And that’s all you need to know.

Revenge shows that you still have passion. These fuckers like it when you hate them, b/c it means you still have emotions towards them. Read that again: revenge plots won't make him feel bad, it will just make him feel like he's just "that powerful" 🙄.

Men don't fear attention from you, they fear obvilion. Abandonment. Indifference.

Throw him into the void sis.

Hell no. Get out of there before he hurts you even further. he sounds predatory and screwing his friend will only probably anger him to the point of doing something worse to you.

you need to decenter men and center your own safety instead

Don't fuck his friend. Fuck his credit.