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Am I right in thinking this? I saw a comment on another post here that simply saying 'no' is a vetting strategy. Thought to give it a try.
(I'm on OLD to practice boundaries, I'm not looking to date this guy. I'm more focused on being better at setting and preventing my boundaries from being disrespected. Hence the post for feedback on this)
A history of being gaslighted makes me doubt if I don't read things well in conversations.
Thoughts?
Any man who wants to move off the dating app would give me pause. And yeah, he wants to "compromise"? This should be a no effort, no brainier thing for a man who's actually interested in you. He should be happy to converse where you are comfortable conversing. You said you wanted to stay there yet he's already trying to test you? Hard pass.
“Here’s a thought” alone raises my hackles. What follows it is usually creepy, and it sure is in this case.
That "good to hear you've got a system" screams of forced teaming to me.
A known tactic of successful debaters is to immediately find something with which to agree with your opponent's argument because it makes it easier to get them to be open to accepting the next thing they're gonna do which is counter.
Girl run.
He is irritating. I never moved, moving always seemed like a bad sign. It was like that's where he compartmentalizes his Tinder harem or it's a place he can send dick pics. This is not a compromise, it's not so subtle pressuring. I'd block him. No means no, go find someone else for your stable.
I don’t use WhatsApp and don’t even really know what it is, but I would say if he’s wanting to move off of the dating app this badly it’s because he wants to violate the rules of the dating app — like send you photos of his dick.
Also yes, you already said no, you don’t want to use WhatsApp and he’s not taking “no” for an answer. How does he think asking three questions is magically going to make him trustworthy? This guy is a problem.
I immediately bristle at speech like this – it definitely sounds like someone who is capable of being very manipulative. I'd move on.
Yeah he sounds like bad news. He sounds very manipulative and unable to accept boundaries. The whole point of boundaries is that they're non-negotiable. You don't have to "compromise" on boundaries. Please block and delete this guy OP. If he's pushing boundaries at this early stage, who knows what else he'll do?!
Yes he is disrespecting you. You said NO very clearly.
“Here’s a thought..”.. fuck you asshole. Ugh.
Yes.
It does work 😂
"CoMpRoMiSe" 🤦♀️
Pushy creep.
But please don't show your hand straight away ladies...mentioning marriage feeds mirroring narcissists.
That compromise seems awfully similar to an unlimatium, in the next three questions we either unmatch or you do what I asked.
Keep saying the word NO, and you will see the mask drop. The sooner the mask drops, the worse the abuser. Abusers can't stand the word NO because they feel entitled to a woman. A woman's body, a woman's time, and woman's energy. And I never understood why the rush to move off the app anyways? Messaging is messaging. But going to what's app means he can FaceTime you, send videos, and will have access to you more easily cause your phone number is attached to your what's app. Never give out your real number either. And using Whatsapp is a way for these scrotes to get your real number.
But here's a thought irritates me
FDS aside, asking for WhatsApp is usually a good sign of a scammer... ask him how he feels about crypto lol.
(Unless you live in a country where WhatsApp is the primary text app, then disregard)
My response would have been, "My boundaries are not negotiable."