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What goes through your mind if a woman in her early 30's has a promise ring? I was having dinner last weekend with my mom's friends family. Her daughter mentions that she and her boyfriend have been together since mid-20's and said she might as well be married at this point. He gave her a promise ring. I don't know about you guys but isn't that something you do in high school? I've met him maybe 2 times and he seems nice enough and he's had some personal issues as well. I'm thinking you should at be married by now or at least engaged. Even her mom was like, promise ring to promise what exactly?
I don't know 🤷♀️. What do you guys think? I don't know too much about their relationship unfortunately.
Edit: My friend is the breadwinner, but he works as a sales person in a hardware store. They don't live together, but they're trying to find a one bedroom apartment. He doesn't contribute much.
A promise ring is worthless and ridiculous. If they were in their mid-20s it should have been an engagement ring or nothing.
What's a promise ring at that point even supposed to mean? "I promise to promise to marry you some day?". I also really don't want to know how that situation went... he pulls out a ring, she thinks she is getting a proposal and he goes "Wait, no! I'm not proposing, that's just a promise ring!". How demeaning.
It was very likely a way for him to shut her up and tie her down without having to propose and to string her along for a few more years. If he really wanted to marry her some day, he would have proposed back then. If a woman wears a promise ring in her 30s I pity her. She is clearly being used by a scrote who has no intention of ever really commiting to her.
It's pathetic. He's not 12
She needs to raise her standards and dump him. He can keep the Cracker Jack ring
Yeah, those are exclusively for high schoolers....
I really, really, really don't understand men who say they want to marry you someday but don't propose. It's not like an engagement means you need to get married tomorrow. It can be called off, too, you're not married until you're married, so... Men who bristle at the idea of proposing are just cowards who don't actually want to marry you, because if they did, they'd declare that intention in the way it's usually done: a proposal. That's what it's for. Promise rings just say "keep waiting for a proposal while I wait until I run out of options and am ready to settle for you". Great.
My sister got a promise ring when she was proposed to in 2021. She was 21 and the ring itself was part of a 3 piece engagement set. He gave her a promise ring bc he was saving up to buy the engagement ring and wanted her to know he planned on proposing to her sometime that year. They’d been dating about 2 years at that point. Then he surprised her with a trip a few months later and proposed to her on top of a mountain. Then the last piece was what was put on during their marriage the following year. So.
I can see it as a young person thing to do, like in high school or college, but once you hit mid 20’s and above a promise ring is just a slap in the face. Especially after YEARS together. Like. I’m 23 now and if a guy got me a promise ring I’d bounce cuz we obviously don’t see eye to eye and I’d assume he’s just leading me on.
I would find a promise ring absolutely insulting. Give me an engagement ring or stop wasting my time.
Ummmm that is shit teens do 😂
id be so embarrassed if I got one. I should be getting engagement rings at my age
when I was around 23/24 my bf gave me one when we lived together and I thought it was stupid back then because why not give me an engagement ring when I was ready? I even told him the idea is stupid and then he told me he got it because I asked for one. Not true, but I did ask for nice jewelry, so maybe he got confused as he was not a smart man. However I did like the ring so I wore it and still have it.
I have 2 other friends who are around my age (early 30s) who have promise rings but are not married or engaged to their partners. If a guy does this to you it’s to waste your time. And it’s embarrassing.
Unless you’re like 16-19, to show some commitment as I don’t think it’s smart to get engaged at that age.
Pre-engagement engagement? IDK. For a high school or college student under the age of like 21, MAYBE. Just get regular-way engaged with a suitable ring if that’s the intention.
"What a joke" is what goes through my mind when I think of a woman in her 30s receiving a promise ring.
Treating a grown woman as if she were a teenager is infantilizing and insulting.
I don’t even think teens should do promise rings. If you’re not old enough to get married, you’re not old enough to get engaged, or pre-engaged.
Being engaged is like being pregnant - you either are or you're not. This guy is not only wasting her time, he's flaunting it.
A promise ring is a shut up ring for a forever girlfriend/spinning plate.
Nope! The last time I heard of a promise ring was on J-14 magazine! It sounds too juvenile!
I'd get second hand embarrassment but hopefully it's at least a nice ring but I don't think promise rings ever are.
That’s absurd