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I'll preface this by stating that I'm lonely and getting over someone who though he had low-level traits had some very high level traits and raised my standards. Sigh*. I've downloaded a couple of apps for shits and giggles, boredom, boundary practice and so I came across this one guy on Tinder.
After we matched this man made a comment about one of my pictures, and within two messages about said picture proceeded to send me this; "If you had to ask me a first question what would it be 😉?"
I haven't replied because I'm getting the feeling that this guy is trying to put me in a position to chase him right off the bat.. Do you believe I'm right?
I think your instincts are on the mark. He is asserting himself as the prize in a way that indicates narcissism. He could have simply just asked YOU a question.
Yeah while at first glance it comes off as harmless, I think there's a load of subtext under this one. For most of us FDSers after years of this crap we can smell the scrotery from a mile away. It took me many times of questioning my first instinct because I didn't want to be "judgmental" or "too picky". What the other person said, he's thinks he's a prize and you should be putting in the work to catch his dusty ass.
To me that sounds like subtle negging. Like he's challenging you to ask him about himself (reading between the lines here), unlike all those other stuck-up b*tches who never show interest in other people. Whatever he's trying to do, it's obnoxious and not cute.
My first question is: if you are scared of doing the emotional labour why are you on a dating site? My second question is: what could you offer in a relationship if you won't do the emotional labour? (I.e. is your dick and/or paycheck big enough to compensate for the one sided relationship you are offering). My third question is: why are you wasting my time?
Tinder has these god awful prompts that allow men to be even lazier than they already are. This screams prompt to me. Either way, it's a weird one and does indicate he wants you to do the pursuing. If I were you I'd assume that this is a man in his feminine energy and delete him from my feed.
Everything everyone said, yes! Any time I was on online dating and suspected something about a man, I was always right. You are not judgmental, these are men other women have been rejecting for years and there’s always a reason why.