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so I got a message request on IG from this man that started following me. He messages saying how interesting my profile look and he would like to get to know me and that we have "x" as a mutual friend. I looked at his profile and I wasn't interested, I'm not attracted to him at all. Since I don't know him, I never replied to him. Also his message went into my "request folder" so he can't even tell I read it lol. Anyways a few days later he unfollowed me as I didn't reply back to him which is totally fine.
Now today friend "x" messages me out of the blue lol and tell me his friend saw my profile and likes me and wants to get to know me. Uhg I don't want to be rude but I'm not interested in dating below me. How do I say this to my friend? I also don't want to close the door on being set up IF someone else comes along lol.
Tips? Advice?
I was gonna say "oh I saw a message in my request folder but I didn't reply back as I wasn't interested haha" or adding "but we can be friends" now I don't want to be friends with this guy wanting to get to know me but I also don't want to be rude to friend x
The guy knows you're not interested because you didn't respond. His weasly attempt to go though your friend is another reason not to let him into your life. Just tell your friend you're not interested.
"No thank you, I don't find him attractive."
That's all you need to say about it. If they flip out saying you should give him a chance, attraction isn't everything, yada yada then look at them like they have two heads and walk away. As for possible future set-ups, do you really want someone who is willing to put you with that setting you up in the future?
Ditch the scrote mutual friend. His loyalty is to his fellow scrotes.
Just tell her that you're not interested. If your friend wants to set you up with men who don't meet your standards, it's unlikely that she will ever set you up with men who match your preferences. Btw IMO it's very creepy for men to send random messages to women they've never met on social media. They're usually either perverts or scammers.
I'll take this a step further and say any female "friend" who tries to set you up with an objectively ugly* man is not really your friend. She wants to see you fail so she can feel superior.
Ask me how I know.
*I'm not necessarily implying this man is objectively ugly, as I have no idea what he looks like, and I'm not necessarily implying your friend is not your friend. I'm just saying this is something you want to consider going forward.
Drive both of them crazy by saying you never got the message.