Personality Types

I never remember what all those letters mean, and the people who seem to astound me. I am an Advocate, which is far easier to remember than alphabet soup.

Abusers aren't that picky or smart. They behave like douches to most people, and the ones with good sense read the red flags and thus keep clear of them. The ones with more porous personal boundaries paint the red flags green and value their own sainthood / niceness.

Empathy is not an inherent trait that some people have and others lack. Like any trait it's a spectrum. I think the problem is that some people have identified into their own kindness, and then they cannot put it down. They see an abuser or a scrote, because everyone has always lauded them for how nice and kind they are, they feel the need to extend that kindness to somone who isn't nice.

I believe problems (in all traits) come from not being able to move up and down its spectrum. No one point in the spectrum is wrong, but you do need the ability to move along it. So don't be defined by alphabet soup

A close friend of mine is an INFJ, and just like you, she's also a very intuitive and a no-nonsense kind of person, whilst I, on the other hand -an INFP- can be too forgiving, emotionally vulnerable and a people pleaser. We both are very sensitive, empathic and observant, as we are Feelers, however, a lot of INFPs deal with this ''hopeless romantic'' idea of loving (or love in general), which at least in my case, made me very vulnerable at the hands of abusers and manipulators. But of course, you cannot figure a person out just by their MBTI personality types. And you can overcome the weaknesses of your personality type and embrace your strengths.

They say INFJ is the rarest personality type but it's actually really common . They are the dreamer type, the introverted empath. But they also have a hard working conscientious side. Similar to INFP but has that more organised edge to them.

Definitely people who get that result are more likely to get targeted by narcissists because they probably fit the "empath" type.

I used to get INFJ but now I'm bitter and older. I got ISTP the last time I took that test.

I studied that personality theory as a hobby for ages. I like psychology theories :)

I'm a mastermind type, but I don't think what you described is directly related to the personality typography which is controversial in its usefulness and accuracy.

From what I understand, the users described in your post exploit trauma and kindness in people. When we were pickmes, we had copious amounts of both. So, before we learned to steer clear of these types, we were vulnerable. These user types don't specifically target us, they go for anyone and see who will stick around.

I am an INFJ too and was definitely targeted by low value people. I say "was" because shortly after discovering FDS I realised that just because I feel empathy for someone does not mean that I need to - or even should - express that.

I have also noticed that as I've gotten older and learned more about myself and others, I am pretty good at sensing when someone is "bad news" either before or within minutes of speaking 🤓

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