Opionions about polyandry (women with more than one male partner)?

Good luck finding not one, but multiple HVM.

It seems there is always this notion that person A fulfills me in this way and person B fulfills me in this other way. It sounds a lot like trying to put a positive spin on being with people who are as a whole LV but possess limited admirable qualities/HV traits.

And yes, I personally cannot fathom a HV man being okay with sharing me.

Imagine being in a relationship with one LVM. Then imagine two LVM. Imagine doing 3x the chores, scheduling, managing.That's too much work.

I don’t think a hvm would be into poly relationships. Actually anyone who is hv - man or woman would not be into these relationships. They are draining and you can’t love several people at once. It’s silly.

Now, in the dating stage there isn’t anything wrong with dating multiple men. Date them until one commits to you. But after that commitment you stop dating other men.

my take on this is very simple: why would you do that to yourself?

is this post a joke? men are WORK! they suck the life out of you. if it's difficult to find one HVM, it is even worse to find multiple HVM.

Sounds exhausting.

multiple manlets?? you just know they’re all going to get the (man) flu at the same time…and then what? nurse duty x 4?

Since you asked...

I think it's disgusting. I don't think HVW or HVM would take part in such an arrangement. I don't agree with your statement that if a woman gets to incomes and two dads for her kids, then "good for her". I think it's detrimental to children. I think the only men who would be interested in such an arrangement are gay. I also think, regardless of what ground rules they throuple comes up with on the outset, the men will feel they have permission to sleep around with each other, other women, and probably other men. I don't think they could possibly respect the woman.

Many of them here have already answered you very well: No HV person would want to get entangled in any kind of poly relationship. How do they have time to attend two or more partners? No. Finding just one worthwhile man already seems like an impossible mission nowadays.

Dealing with one man is exhausting, why suffer the same twice?

Also, the kind of men who like this type of situation are often the kind of guys who should NOT be around children. You know what I mean.

Now I understand the appeal and that's why in a romance book I do like the idea. I like the genres "why choose" or "reverse harem". But of course, those men are fictional.

In reality, no one in her or his right mind gets involved in these things... Also dealing with more than one in-laws, when you already have your own extended family... no!

My thoughts on this: Its the ultimate middle finger to the patriarchy and the “natural” state for humankind.

If you look to evolutionary biology - mammals with hidden oestrus are matriarchal and polyandrous. There is little pair bonding in these animals. Instead a matriarchy of females collaborate for the benefit of the group. Males tend to be only slightly bigger than females as they need to compete against other males for the attention and sexual favours of the females. The sexual dimorphism in humans is not to the scale where “protective” qualities kick in. In animal species that have this smaller level of sexual dimorphism it is because males need to compete for attention of the females. But by tying women down in monogamous relationships, patriarchy has flipped this script.

I know this view is not aligned to FDS who regard monogamy as a high value trait but it is also one that keeps the patriarchy in place. By monopolising the power that women have when it comes to mate selection (or making it a one and done thing), it limits where female power flows from.

Those who say it would be difficult - yes in current state of male hood it would be difficult but not impossible. However, it would make males compete for attention - they would need to conform to our standards to be eligible to mate. And not just one and done - male would continually need to live up to the standards we set to gain access to us - there access is not set in stone (or a ring). It’s a continual process of living up to the standards female set. I find the comments about manbabies being a symptom of a non-polyandrous world. Yes in monogamy they can rest on their laurels but not in polyandry.

Edit: I see FDS as a pragmatic step towards taking back the power of female mate selection (which is why it is absolutely terrifying to many...polyandry is possibly a step to far in the given conditions but a trajectory that is good to keep on.

Polyamory is done by multiple people being in non-martial relationship. In USA most polyamory involved one women multiple men. You are deserving polygyny, where one man is married to multiple women, which is the opposite of polyandry. Polygamy is multiple marriages between multiple people. I am not a big fan of poly relationships of any kind but polyandry has much more benefits for women and her offspring than polygyny because polyandry tend revolve around women, though doesn’t mean you are going to get multiple HVM men to be in polyandry marriage with you.