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I want to know if you all think the same as me. I've been speaking to this guy who is attractive and middle class. He wants to meet tomorrow but I want to see what you think:
he mentioned that he likes drag and joked about having worn a dress. I am worried that he's bi.
He said he had money but is living with a female friend (possible gf/friend he wants to sleep with?)
He negs more than I like. My ex did that and I hated the way it chipped away at my confidence.
He joked that I should travel to him. He is happy to travel to me though, but then he's saying he's not free the next few weekends so is time pressurising me.
Finally, his reasons for not being free include seeing a female friend's play (cheating/bi fears) and that the next Sunday would be a "hangover day".
I stopped at #1. Don’t date a man you suspect is bi. Listen to your gut. I looked past it with one guy and then throughout our relationship, I caught myself overanalyzing and doubting things. Not my hob to assess someone’s sexuality. If I am not absolutely sure he is steaight, I am NOT dating him.
If you’re cool with dating bi men, then disregard
If a man has a harem of "close female friends", you need to be careful regardless of whether or not they live with him. There's a very good chance their relationship with the scrote consists of him triangulating them against each other in a 24-7 state of competition for his attention/approval. As a result, most of them will likely be pickmeishas who hate your guts and will be lying in wait for the chance to sabotage your relationship. They will rake you over the coals without mercy and he will enable them because he gets off on having so many women fight over his unwashed ass. Not worth it I say
Entire list is pretty rough, but the negging one got to me. Why would you deal with that? Just cook gourmet food and watch Netflix without a guy who wants to fuck your butt telling you your butt looks fat, etc, etc, insert male logic insult.
The entire list is red flags. You are guaranteed to regret it if you continue. Men with “close female friends” are just ugly sims who got stuck in friend zone and way to wiggle out of it. These men would triangulate their SO by simping for their female friends and then make their SO seems like the jealousies insecure ones. Don’t bother and abort mission.
Aside from all the other absolute showstoppers here which everyone else has already pointed out, I have one more to add: 'hangover day'. No. Just no.
This whole thing is awful. Please bail at even a hint of any of these points.
Block and don't look back.
1-It sounds like he's testing the waters with the drag/dress joke. Please trust your gut on this. My closet case ex made similar suggestive comments plus I found so much gay porn on his computer over the years. I grew to resent my womanly features. These closeted men can really do a lot of damage to their s/o.
2-Sounds like a fwb situation.
3-Any neg or hint of a neg should be an instant block.
4 & 5-he's prioritizing a female friend's play over seeing you. That says it all. Your gut is right on with this one, too.
He doesn't even like you. These are all future excuses for when he plans on treating you like shit in the near future. And yes, he is gay, and yes, he is sleeping with a lot of other women. This is nothing. This is a random shitty guy. Move on.
He's a lying cheating loser who fucks dudes. And he's grooming you for the day he "comes out" as a "woman".
Next.
You're SEEING the red flags. Don't gaslight yourself and try to make crap fit into your life.
They definitely fuck
Never date a guy who lives with women he's not related to. That's the kinda shit that pickmes and scrotes do. The scrotes to use the woman as a live in maid and the woman because she likely has a crush or is super desperate for male attention. Same thing for moving in with a bf/gf. That shit is lame af. Don't live with a guy you're not engaged to.
Overall based on your own observations he sounds like a basic, worthless scrote that you should block and delete. Imo don't give guys a second chance bc after he said the first thing you should have blocked him. He's a waste of time.
It's the negging for me. Nope. Byeeeee
Instead of thinking, "how much can I tolerate" or "how much is too much" I strongly recommend switching your point of view to "am I okay with this/these?"
I’m looking for a female roommate as well. After reading all this about him, I’m contemplated moving home with my parents. If you can, live with a girl. It doesn’t matter if he’s bi, straight, gay, or has any other identifications all these traits in a person in general is enough to get me running for the hills.
He's a man living off women? He's not middle class if he can't afford his own place.
Excuse me, why do you want to go out with him? 😂
Nothing attractive about him, and he's not middle class if he lives with roommates.