Opinions on boyfriend going clubbing without you?

Why couldn't he Uber WITH you to get your ID & then Uber right back to the club? Trust your gut. This was lame ass LVM behavior. If he didn't have the $$ to Uber both ways? Guess he's staying in tonight then, huh? Why? BC if you don't have the money for 2 Ubers, you don't have the $$ for the club. Also I'm so jealous- all of the dopest music is 100% coming out of Australia right now.

So the two of you were together and he ditched you to go to the club with his friends? I think this is a breakup moment. He's telling you who he is and how he values his time. *You* deserve so much better than that.

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Not okay. You feeling this way is evidence of that, and all the evidence you need btw. I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

Trust your gut on this.

I would feel extremely weird if he didn't stay with me at that moment, I understand you completely. Also, why he didn't go to home with you so you can get your ID and after go clubing if it was so important for him? Why don't go to other place where ID was not needed? That was ugly also by your friends side. But you can judge better the situation as I don't know all the details.

Asking your question in general, I personally would prefer not to. It's not really a trust issue, it's just that I think there are certain activites one should avoid if is in a relationship, and especially those who allow to have a more relaxed contact with the sex we are attracted to. I don't care if they are friends, workmates or just random. Again, by modern standards this is a trust issue but imo one should not put oneself at a slippery slope situation, we usually overestimate our morals and abilitie to rationalise. My bf and I agree on this.

Thank you! Yes I agree but I feel like there's this unspoken pressure about being "cool with it" or else you're a prude or have trust issues. Sort of how it's like with porn. My boyfriend did offer to go home with me but only after I made it clear that I'm not very impressed. In the end I told him to go and have fun 😐 I hate it.

Next time you go to the club all by yourself and don’t take him with you 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ don’t answer your phone, let him wonder and lose his mind. What a jerk.

gf that's weird. he shouldn't have gone with his friends even if it's not a club where they're going. if you were all together hanging out, he shouldn't just sent you home all by yourself. my ex used to be like that too, i understand you completely. it's not about trust, it's about respecting your partner in my honest opinion

Break up with him.

It's against common courtesy to do that. You shouldn't walk into an occasion with someone and then not return with them. It's rude.

There’s no way my man would send me home so he could do something else. We’d go together or not at all. He would gladly spend the money on a round trip Uber so I could get my ID. How old are you guys? A HVM would neverrr

Yes, it is LVM behaviour. What would you have done if the situation had been reversed and he was the one without ID? He should have either gone home with you or gone home without to pick up your ID so you could both go to the club.

This is a big fat red flag. He shouldn’t have put you in a position to “give him permission” to go. His only response should have been: “sorry, friends, gonna head home with my babe.” It shouldn’t have even crossed him mind. Not even a little bit. If you were there together, you leave together. Shit, this even applies to friendships. Your guy is a selfish asshole who cares more about clubbing than your safety and security. This isn’t even a situation where he’d get HVM kudos for going home with you. It’s fn standard baseline respect. Block delete and don’t even give him the kindness of explaining because that’s not your job. Sorry, lovey, but this is your opportunity to dodge that bullet!

I don’t know why no ones mentioning it, but clubs are meat markets. Yeah, all right, there’s some nice music playing and whatnot, but the main purpose is do the mating dance. Like all other species do, whether your dude recognises it or not. You know it though, hence the uncomfortable feeling. And most likely he knows too, but prefers to feign ignorance to get you to agree with him going to the meat market without you.

And an Uber alone at night? No way!

He was dead wrong! What ended up happening Op?

that is pretty odd honestly - why couldn't he have just gone home with you?

You should tell him and he should make it up to you.