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I'm really grateful to fds for protecting many people from becoming like the girl who accepted this man, but c'mon.
What does this man want a girlfriend for besides easy access to sex? He wants someone to accommodate his lifestyle of staying home and playing games 24/7 without any intention of working. It's not like he would take in interest in her and want to spend a notable amount of time with her, he warned her that all he does is play video games.
The only mystery here is the girl, why does she want this? How is this better than being alone? I know for sure she is not jobless, why is she attracted to a jobless guy who stays inside all day?
Those guys who look at you and think "I don't deserve you, no one would ever want their daughter to be with a guy like me". Those guys have more empathy, sympathy, compassion, care and concern for you then this man will ever feel for his girlfriend. If she ever died "oh well, she met my needs, now who will do it?".
Tell me this doesn't give the vibe of wanting to ruin another person's life. It's not like he afford to wash and iron her clothes, cook dinner, and clean the house to support her when she returns from work. It's not like he pauses his video game when she comes home because she had a long day.
Oh and the emotional blackmail to never leave him because he only has you but also accept eternal stagnancy in life because you didn't have a problem with him leading an aimless life.
In order to love such a person it takes a lot of self hatred.
The only reason guys like this get gf's is because societal conditioning has brainwashed women to give him the benefit of the doubt and accept him as he is. This propaganda doesn't go both ways though
My brother in law and his wife are basically that couple with the exception that they both work part-time jobs in food service just to make ends meet. Their life ambition is to sit indoors, eating McDonalds food, and playing video games. They call each other soulmates and have been together going on 15 years. I'm sure some low self esteemed woman would "try it out" with such a guy and that is sad. However, if I learned anything from when I was teaching students just a few years ago, there is a scary amount of young women these days who seem equally lazy or afraid to actually live life. These are the women that probably don't see being lazy or unmotivated as red flags since they share these attributes, and end up with a guy who will file fake disability claims with her in the future so they can both avoid working.
I know terminally online people believe these lazy gamer dudes want women who are 10s based on what is said in forums or social media. But the reality is that many, if not most, of these men are so desperate for a girlfriend that they will take anyone that wants them and whoever that woman is is "perfect" for him in his eyes. At least that's the case with my brother in law and his group of friends, all of whom are partnered long term with total loser, fake disability-receiving women.
I once dated a loser like this- he lived with his mum, didn't have a job, was a stoner, porn-addicted, played video games all day. I was attracted to him because I was insecure, hurting and vulnerable after a divorce and he gave me attention and made me feel wanted. At first I stupidly thought I could make him change through subtle suggestion. Well, I gave up on that after 6 months. Then I was very dissatisfied but didn't leave him for another 1.5yrs due to my own insecurities and believing that I needed a man and no one else would ever want me (because I was a single mum with a toddler). There was social pressure to stay with him too, my parents even encouraged me to stay with him as they saw him as a harmless boyfriend place holder (like I needed to be with a man at all times) even though they knew he was not marriage material. Once I grew some self-esteem I ditched him and felt nothing! So I think lack of self-esteem is the main reason why men like this are able to get girlfriends.
The "emotional blackmail" part is SO true, and it's exactly the internal self talk that kept me from breaking up with an ex I didn't even like for 2+ years because I felt it was "unfair" to leave him alone because he was depressed and I was the only person he was close to (totally by his choice, he thought friendships were a waste of time). Trying to help him live like a minimally functional human being was so draining that it affected my carrer and studies. This conditioning is extremely harmful, and if it wasn't for fds and a lot of therapy I would still be thinking that I was a "heartless b*tch" for leaving him alone and that I could sAvE hIm if I tried harder.
She's going to start resenting him eventually.
Quitting Reddit not going well?
Oh, yeah, these people exist. I really don't care if two adults live in filth with 0 ambition. The worst is when they figure out "you get free money from the government for having kids". And the bar for CPS to take away kids is so off, as long as they're not drunk 24/7 and don't physically assault them, they can keep the kids and the cheques. Now that I think about it, without Tinder etc, this dude would still be the village loser but now that he found his 'soulmate', they might bring life in this world to leech off of. P.S. Completely agree with taxes going to families, expecting mother's healthcare, education. My grievance is that they know the bar for getting your kids taken away is so low so they don't bother to even pretend they wash their kids clothes etc. And that foster care system/ orphanages are so much worse CPS can't leverage taking the kids away either.
Women need to love themselves more!!!