OLD Red Flag?

If a man asked me, word for word, "What kind of man are you looking for?" then I would consider it a red flag. He is telling you clearly that he intends to shapeshift and manipulate you into fucking him.

I'd move on.

I would not trust men who ask those questions. If you say, “honest, stable man who will seek a serious relationship,” and you’re talking to a fuckboy who only wants to get laid, he’s not going to tell you “oh that doesn’t sound like me, best try someone else.” A lot of fuckboys on apps are actually really bad at finding new people and also keeping the people they go on dates with content enough to keep going on dates with them. They resort to all sorts of pickup artist and manipulative techniques to try to make themselves seem appealing. If one of your personal “no’s” was no smoking and one of your goes was reading, they would morph into that person temporarily. You will often find the same men on hinge and on tinder with wildly different profiles.

I think that is why the handbook does not tell you to give a lot of information immediately. A HVM will get to know you through actual well planned dates and if you are not compatible, he will not waste your time. LVM/NVM will see “wants marriage” in your profile and will start to lovebomb you without making real commitments to you.

You can ask scrotes things but they will lie. Let them reveal themselves to you and watch them closely.

OP, why don't you trust your own instincts? Of course it is a red flag for them to dig about queations like that and you know exactly why. Tf? Read the handbook.

Yeah, he needs to be taking you on a date to learn that about you. Anything you say to men can and will be used against you. In this case so he can pretend to be what you want until he's able to sleep with you/lock you down. Don't ever tell a man what your preferences are or ask him about himself. You let him reveal himself to you. You observe. And if/when you see or hear something you don't like, you leave without a word.

Idk. I ask it to know what guy he is. Does he want kids? How does he view monogamy?