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Currently I’m (22F) not actively dating and I’ve been celibate for a year. I’ve been reflecting on my pick-me tendencies and specifically on the type of men I attract.
It seems like the main type of men I attract are men who are queer, bi, or in the closet, even though I prefer dating men who are heterosexual.
When I lost my virginity at 18 I was with a man (22M) who told me he couldn’t be in an exclusive relationship with me after 4 months of dating because, in his own words, he was depressed, polyamorous, possibly queer, and not over his ex girlfriend. He didn’t tell me any of these things until I had already lost my virginity to him and he made me believe things were serious between us while we were dating.
The next short-lived relationship I had was with a guy (21M) who told me he was straight but when I asked him if he has watched porn he said that he has watched gay porn and that he’d like to have a “twink suck him off” if the opportunity arose. He told me this in bed after we just had sex.
My first (and last) age gap/toxic relationship was with a 30 year old man, let’s call him Adam. Adam always had his male best friend at his house even though they didn’t live together, sometimes until 3-4am while I was still there. Anytime I confronted him about it, like “why does your friend stay so late while I’m here?” he would get upset with me. One time Adam and his friend went into the bathroom for 30 minutes with the blow dryer on. I confronted him about that too, asking if they were doing something sexual or drugs, and he gaslighted me completely.
I always had suspicions that Adam was bi or gay and in the closet, he also had ED because he was addicted to porn and chain smoking. After we broke up, he contacted me several months later saying that him and his bff had a dramatic falling out. I asked Adam again if he ever did anything with his friend and he said that his friend tried to have sex with him one time but he rejected him because he’s not a F-word.
Immediately after Adam said that I realized that my suspicions were always true. He was the only guy I’ve ever dated who tried so hard to be traditionally masculine, or actually tried to be in a toxic way. One of the reasons we broke up was because I was not “submissive enough” for him but he wasn’t even a strong man to begin with. Just tries to be alpha even though he’s the last thing from it like that Andrew Tate guy.
I try to think about the men I know or who I’ve met in the past who are HVM and I cannot think of any. Further, I can’t find a single heterosexual man who doesn’t say or do things that make me question his sexuality. I’ve been single for a year because the men who are interested in me, no matter their age, are blatantly immature. For instance, a guy who I had been talking to for a while seemed like a HVM until he started sending me horny selfies of himself on a daily basis. At first it was innocent selfies but then he started sending shirtless pics and crotch pics while I still sent nothing in return and we never met irl. Ugh I’m just tired it all.
Coomers, man. Their porn induced mental and sexual dysfunction is their own problem. Its hard to empathize with them for so many reasons, one being that they take their problems out on others (entitlement), and another is that they went out of their way to create these problems out of boredom (more entitlement)
And them saying off the wall shit right after sex is a thing apparently. Its happened to me and I've heard from other women as well. I bet its a redpill thing.
Not to be rude, but did you check yourself for AIDS 😅🙁 The majority of women catch it from bisexual men. Also, it seems like a weird manipulation tactic to reveal weird ass shit AFTER sex- and is extremely predatory. One of my friends told me her ratchet ass boyfriend who she was on a "break" with slept with a mutual "friend" and got her pregnant (the girl got an abortion but my dumbass friend didn't 🙄) WHILE they were having sex. They want to admit really damaging things while or after making you physically and emotionally vulnerable.
And this is why I say coercive sex with no informed consent = rape. I wouldn't be surprised if these scrotes who reveal to you AFTER sex their fucked up shit are the same ones who complain the loudest about "false" rape accusations... They are the same scrotes who resort to manipulation to steal sex from women which makes them predators or better yet vultures...The whole process they go through to get into women's pants with full malice aforethought only to pump and dump these women after leading her on is pretty fucking coercive. And we all know coercive sex = no real consent = rape. Many scrotes fear false rape accusations because many of them do shit like that.
“Just tries to be alpha even though he’s the last thing from it like that Andrew Tate guy.” He is a ‘entertaining’ predator and pick up artist. He moved to Romania so he won’t have rape allocation because the law there is smoother then the UK. Every women (exept pickme or naive) dismisses him and stays far away from such men.
Also, what's up with the obsession many "straight guys" have with gay sex jokes? They will be super graphic and frequent and like.. why... ?