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Hey ladies,
let me just say I appreciate this platform very much. I think I am just looking for input on planning my wedding.
Firstly i have had to cut off lots of family and friends recently (within the last year) in my level up journey and am planning my wedding. but I am also feeling really sad and now doubting my decision as I have so many less guests than my fiancé (he does have a big family). I know I am being insecure but also worried about what they are going to think when they see no family and much fewer guests on my side (compared to them). I think I am just going to keep it very small but his family it is virtually impossible to cut some people out. Any advice? I am going to be a bride marrying the love of my life but I can’t help but feel so much sadness I have no family to share it with and be excited with me.
thanks for any input or advice! xxx
From a logistical point of view, having a “pick a seat, not a side” sign and having your ushers direct people to fill both sides will avoid it having a visual.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I've had to go grey rock with most of my friends and family. My brother, especially, is someone I want nothing to do with. But it still hurts. My 40th birthday was a few days ago, and it was the first time he didn't call to wish me a happy birthday. I still plan on calling him for his, even though I hope I get his voicemail. It's a weird position to be in - lonely, but not wanting their company. Big hugs.
Congrats and I'm happy for you that you get to marry a great guy. 💖 And his family doesn't need to know any details really. Just say they're not invited and leave it at that. Plus now you do have a new family in them if they've accepted you already!
I relate so much to having had to cut off a ton of family and friends in recent years. Well done on having the self-worth to make those boundary changes, by the way. I’m always sorry to realize so many of us were surrounded by jerks who were supposed to have our backs, but didn’t. It’s an impressive thing to remain no contact. The idea to not designate a bride’s side and a groom’s side for the seating is a really good one. I bet it will not be as noticeable as you may think. That’s wonderful your fiancé’s father supports you. Best wishes!