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We've only had sex a handful of times since we got married 5 months ago - the first time was a month after the wedding, once on our honeymoon, and the third time about 3 months ago. I've brought this up and each time I hear new excuses, ranging from "Yeah, but we don't get time", or "I prefer to shower before sex." There have been times when I would message him from work asking if we could have sex tonight and he's say yes only for him to completely ignore me until we fall asleep. I've asked him why he isn't interested in it anymore since we used to have sex often before we got married. He ignores so I don't broach the topic for weeks. This is affecting my self-esteem now. I feel unattractive and unloved. I want to be desired.
Ladies, what can I do without hurting my self-esteem any further? I want a strong approach where I don't make a fool of myself anymore.
If there isn't a genuine medical condition at play here (which he would have no reason to hide) a man who isn't enthusiastic about sleeping with you is getting it somewhere else. Probably porn, cheating or he's gay... or a combination of all three, who knows?
But the reasons don't actually matter. Do you want this to be your life? Begging your husband for attention and sex for the next 30-50 years? No? Then - as harsh as it sounds - it's better to call it quits now than to waste any more time on a man who is obviously not that into you.