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some context: we‘re in our mid twenties, dated five months, he broke up with me a month ago because he is struggling with his mental health and says I don’t deserve to deal with his issues and he needs to focus on getting better before trying to date (which like is true)
the gift: he bought me a Coach purse in my favorite color and he even found one that matches my wallet and I do just really like the purse
we ended on good terms but we haven't been talking since the break up which I appreciate because even though I still care about him I know I should try to move on because I deserve something certain and I don’t want to set the expectation that I will be there waiting for him when he feels ready
anyway, now I have this purse and I don’t know what to do with it. I thought maybe at first it was an attempt to get back together but his only explanation was “I deserve something nice for Christmas” and he reiterated the same things of saying he wants to be with me, but knows that he is not mentally stable enough.
so what do you think ladies? Should I return it and tell him I just can’t accept such a nice gift in this context? Or should I just take the gift and keep on working on moving on? Please help 😂
Keep the gift, block and delete the guy and accept no further contact. It is 100% an attempt to get you back, but you don't have to entertain it. It's his problem if he's dumb enough to spend all that money on a gift for an ex.
I'd keep the gift for all the sh1t he put me through, send a thank you note, and move on. Wish him well and hopefully the loss of you will help him get his head on straight. Men don't ever change if a woman accepts them at their worst. They have to earn you, invest in you, and work for it. The purse is a little work, so good for him and you. Let's hope he continues to get better and that you move on. Date other guys, and don't feel bad.
Sounds like he's making his mental health issues youre problem. What are his alleged mental health problems? Indesicion? OCD? Stringing women along to boost his fragile ego? Sending you a gift is bullshit, because it creates miserable emotional work for you. And he knew that. I'd be fucking pissed. You should totally keep it though l if you like it.
Seems like he wants to attempt keeping you on standby while he "works on his mental health" and till he "feels like he is in a better place for your sake". That's what the purse seems to be for. So, just like all other Queens here are saying, definitely keep the purse and block+delete or firmly avoid contact with him.
He gave it to you after the break up? Maybe he just wanted to see you happy. Despite his mental health issues he actually sounds relatively mature.
Keep it! He bought it for you and he was the one to initiate the break up, you can keep it without guilt. Plus he seems like he wanted you to have it.
girl, do what you want. if you want to keep the purse, keep it. it's a gift, so it's yours. and move on with your life. you're right, don't wait for him. i think it wa mature of him to end the relationship and prevent you from dealing with his issues. but i think it's a bit suspicious he decided to give you a gift out of the blue. i think he wants to keep you on hold. don't fall for it. if he ever gets better and finds you, do the normal vetting protocol in case you're still single and want something with him. but don't just sit there and wait for him to come back all better.
Sounds like he's tried to find other women during your NC period, and failed, so he's now trying to get you back cause his fuckboy plans didn't pan out.
Keep the gift then block and delete! You don’t owe him anything.
Keep the gift, if there's a gift receipt, I exchange it for something else so you won't be reminded of him. And block him. If you see he's sent you anything else -don't open it, just write "return to sender" on it and put it in outgoing mail. Cut him off entirely.
I'd keep the bag, sell it (because I wouldn't want to use a bag that reminded me of an ex), block and delete.
Sell it and ghost him. He chose to end things with you so don’t talk to him ever.
Keep the purse. He knows you’re not getting together and what he did was a nice thing. I’d say just enjoy the nice thing and keep dating other people.