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I know the easy and logical answer is block and delete any scrote that wastes our time. This one is very confusing to me though. We’ve had good conversations. He seems to be a stable man who wants something serious. He’s very polite. However, he’s disappeared on the day of the date he’s asked me on multiple times. The only reason I haven’t blocked him yet to be honest - is that he’s sent me money to help with bills without even meeting me. I didn’t ask him for the money. I didn’t give him any nudes. I let him know ahead I’m not going to sleep with him just because he gives me things. He still wanted to do it. He did it maybe 5-7 times over the course of a year, a couple hundred each time. He’d always apologize and tell me he wants to wine and dine me as soon as possible + would set up a new date. I’d get hopeful and excited…. Until the day of proves that he’s absent in real life again. He owns a restaraunt and is working often, but it doesn’t explain the random disappearances. I wonder if he’s married or has a girlfriend. It’s just so strange ladies. I guess I haven’t blocked him because I don’t mind the free money. It’s not like I have to do any thing I don’t want to. At most, I’m disappointed at how our dates never happen and still get something out of it. But at the same time - the whole thing has begun to weird me out. I just wonder what this man’s secret is? It’s the weirdest thing to me that he’s never met me in real life, yet has randomly popped in and out to help me.
Edit; thanks for the advice ladies!
I don't think it is "free money" that he is giving you, he is definitely expecting something in return and the mask will slip eventually.
For your own safety, please know nothing in Life is free, and block/delete.
Sounds really sketchy. I think probably married. He’s going to get you hooked/expectant of financial security before letting the mask slip.
Eh I would be careful accepting the money. If it’s too good to be true it probably is. Men don’t just give things for free with no strings attached I’d be highly suspicious of this man being married or the money coming from an ulterior motive, and I would say that my safety and peace of mind is worth more to me than a few hundred here and there.
He's definitely married imo. I think there are various services where you can do background/marriage checks online, I would research that if I were you. Aside from me contributing my random opinion, though, I do hope you'll keep us updated on this, if you decide to keep taking the free money. Curious as to what his deal actually is.
Have you ever actually seen his face other than in pictures? Like on facetime? Because it sounds like a massive catfish to me. Though I can't understand why he would even bother to plan a date just to not show up and seem rude, instead of directly making up an excuse for why he can't meet you... (maybe to appear more legit?)
The money thing is sketchy as hell. I would be worried that by staying just for the free money you're only keeping yourself right where he wants you, possibly for (weird at best, dangerous at worst) reasons to be revealed down the line. Trust your gut, block and delete. Better safe than sorry.
This honestly reminds me of the Tinder Swindler. The money are to set you up for asking you something later. The fact that he keeps bailing + the money thing + online relationship only sounds like internet scam to me.
I read that title and all I thought was HE MUST BE MARRIED.
I would put him on scrotation because he's not completely useless. Date around, you're single till you're married.