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Ladies please help me understand.
I recently got more ear piercings, I think they are really nice and look good.
I also fixed my lashes, which I don’t even do but did cause I’m relocating to somewhere new and wanted to look nice for once, cause I know I probably won’t do them again for a while.
My eldest sister saw it and started shouting at me for the piercings and said It looks irresponsible and people could perceive me as a bad girl.
She said so much and then went ahead to call my mom and shout at her for allowing me to pierce my ears and fix lashes.
She said a lot to my mum and they both agreed that it’s bad and I am sending the wrong message, blah blah.
I don’t get it.
Does more that one piercing make me irresponsible?
Are eye lashes bad?
I’m 26, I’m not even supposed to be answering to anyone , but out of respect no problem.
I try to be as conservative as they want and I’ve gotten to the point I don’t even do normal girl stuff like fix nails, put on lashes and wear some clothes cause I know they will frown upon it.
But it’s becoming annoying cause if I was settled , I don’t think they have any right.
I actually want to cut her off and stop responding to her when I get to my destination but I don’t know if that’s too much.
I think setting boundaries with your sister is a good place to start anytime, but relocation will make it a lot easier to hold firm and create a better relationship between you two. Maybe that means a lot of space while she learns how to approach another adult 🤷♀️. I think a vacation from their judgement is long overdue for you though, and I hope relocation brings you some relief!
Ignore them. As an adult, you are free to pierce yourself and doing your lashes as many times as you please!
People who don't like piercings are tossers.
Control freaks. You’re 26 years old? That would be a hard LOL from me in your boots. Absolutely cut them both off, including your mother. You don’t owe your energy and attention to people that insist on exerting control over you to forget their own failings. That’s just gross and pathetic and you don’t need to tolerate it for a single instant.
You’ll never satisfy people who demand you follow their rules because it’s about the control not the rules. You need to establish your own standards and then maintain them as a boundary. If you focus on their rules you’ll tie yourself up in knots. Piercings are just holes with bits of metal. Lashes are just bits of hair that can be curled, coloured or made longer. Neither have any value or meaning beyond what we attribute to them. Societal values such as “bad girl” are part of the patriarchy which we at FDS absolutely reject. I have my helix pierced because I think it looks cool. I’m sure your piercings are lovely but my opinion doesn’t matter, you’re the only person who needs to like them.
Sounds like they are deep in their Masculina hell and want to drag you down with them. You’re a grown adult and free to do whatever you want anyways.
hopefully you can have a healthy space away from them once you move
Cut her off
You deserve better
Sounds like resentment at the fact that she feels like she can't do those things, therefore everyone mustn't
The escalation and drama and taking it as a personal affront is ridiculous
She needs to get a job, degree, hobby, life