My male friend cut me off because I rejected him

Sometimes you might find the FDS rules a little strict or they don’t make sense until it actually happens. We preach no male friendships for this very reason, because men are not interested in friendships with us, there will always be an ulterior motive for them. It really sucks to lose someone whom you cared for and spent so much time with. But he wasn’t the person you thought he was. Grieve your feelings and move on. Focus and cultivate the female friendships in your life going forward.

He was never your friend in the first place.

Men see female friends as a resource to draw from when lonely, horny or bored. You were used for attention and gifts until he decided, unilaterally, he wanted some other shit you weren't offering. Please don't stay sad long, think of the entitlement and lack of respect of his mindset.

This sounds like hyperbole, but that's a predator. If they do that at any point, then what he wanted was a facefucking or some shit. He lobbied "friendship" with you because that was his ploy. That's the thing about male "friends." They are the most likely class of people to rape you, and unlike Johns or redpillers, they aren't going to express what they ACTUALLY want. Not that you aren't deserving of real friendship, because you are, but men don't even "friendship" the same way women do. They bond over violence and degrading women.

He just want you as his friend with benefit, men who want to be your friend and then declare that they love you were never your friend in the first place, A friend knows his place and men usually form a friendship with women to have easy access to them.

This is also the reason I don't befriend men, they always pull this crap and I'm usually the one who grow cold on them, It just irks me that they took advantage of my desire to have friends just to be a pawn in their manipulative game.

I'm sorry, it does suck to find out someone isn't who you thought they were.

I have not ever known a straight(though even gay guys are often terrible) man to have a "friendship" with a woman without ulterior motives. Mostly for the possibility of sex, and one I know of who it was his ex and he knew she was wealthy and generous with him.

It's such a hard lesson to learn but when a man says you are his friend or that he wants to be your friend, try to imagine that he is just picturing what you can do for him. They are users and hate women. I really don't think a hvm would care to be genuine friends with a woman unless it's built-in, like maybe his sister in law or something.

The only time any man was friends with a woman is when he was waiting to have sex with her or when he already did and then she said “we should just be friends” and then they did favors for each other or worked together or were codependent and called it a friendship

This is a blessing more than anything else. Now you have one fewer source of drama in your life.

I'm sorry. This has happened to me more times than I can count. To the point where I'm not friends with men anymore.

Hey, I just wanted to say that I’m going through pretty much the same situation as you are right now and I know how hard it is. My guy friend and I were super close for about a year and I genuinely felt like we understood each other. After he confessed feelings and I shut it down, he stopped speaking to me. Now we might as well be strangers.

I thought that it was for the best at first. Maybe not similar to your situation but my guy friend was really insecure and didn’t always treat me great as a result, which was a big reason why I rejected him (even though I actually had some feelings). Nevertheless, I find myself intensely mourning the friendship and it just really sucks, because we had a lot of similar interests and have a lot of good memories together.

FDS aside, it is really hard when friendships end, no matter the exact circumstance. It’s probably for the best in the long run that the friendship has ended, but that doesn’t make it any easier.

And with FDS in mind, I think that this last failed friendship with a man is making me swear off friendships with men for good from now on. It’s too painful and risky to invest my time and emotional energy into a friendship that has an extremely high probability of not “just” being a friendship. It’s not worth it.

All you can really do is let yourself grieve for the friendship (even if the friendship was probably better in your head than in reality). Let yourself feel it and be kind to yourself. Going forward, it's probably better not to bother with male friends for this reason. I don't mean this in a victim blaming way. You did nothing wrong but most men are not interested in platonic friendships with women and it's not worth investing emotionally in a friendship with a man when he could just dump you the second he realises that you're not going to sleep with him. Better to invest in female friends if possible.