My friends husband makes me uncomfortable. Seems to be a pattern.
He is 15 years older than me if that adds any context. I saw him at a lecture recently and said hi, happy you guys are back from your trip. He replied something like “thank you, it’s good to be noticed” In kinda a pathetic way… I felt really grossed out by the weird vibe and just walked away.
I was over at their house recently helping the wife cook for under 2 hours, and he got fussy dramatic with her it was weird (he didn’t want to open the window) and then later while we where talking just stood there waiting to be acknowledged to complain and try? To start another small argument? Then later he shows up again frustrated saying it’s been 3 hours and we should be done.
I’ve been over a handful of times to help and I only remember once him having a hissy fit. I’m used to being over more for dinner parties with other guests so he has to behave?
Another friend, we no longer hangout her husband is unemployed and always home, he would get very aggressive towards me and upset that I’m vegan.
Another friend her boyfriend seems to dislike me and I think it affected the friendship.
Idk.
First dude is acting like a toddler and cannot cook? Smells like lvm. I wonder what happened recently that he's throwing mantrums in public, because I can assure you he was doing this shit before when your friend was alone with him.
The other friend: good riddance, also I'm sorry to say they were probably putting murdered animals and things like milk etc in your food, I had identical situation.
As for third friend, idk what to say, it's obvious he's trying to cut your friend from you and possibly other people too. Give her a way to contact you safely in case he succeeds and she needs help.
Agree with the first commenter, please give your third friend some grace with this.. you don’t have to continue hanging around a man who clearly dislikes you and may be trying to poison your friendship with his gf, but let her know (privately, in person if possible) that you get bad vibes from that guy and would love to continue spending 1-on-1 time with her. Showing that you are a friend to her and always on her side (at least when it comes to her relationships) may give her the confidence to leave when she needs to. And always remind her that she deserves better, if and when she starts complaining about this guy.
This can also go for the first friend, because it sounds like she’s married to an adult toddler and she may need the extra confidence of having a strong-willed woman on her side.
If I were you, I’d find ways to hang out with these women friends when their LV scrotes aren’t around.
I have several friends like this, and I avoid interacting with their husbands who are real assholes. If you feel close enough to the women, tell them you want to be with them - but not their husbands. This will help them acknowledge what they’re already seeing - their husbands are bad people. And they’ll feel less crazy.
Many women ignore bad signs like this and try to maintain social connections - especially while you’re there, she wouldn’t have pushed back on him. We’re socialized to smooth things over. Encourage them to push back by being honest about what he’s doing (safely - when he’s not around).