Some backstory. This was my doctor from some time ago but I haven't been to him in a little over a year. He gave me his number when I was his patient but at the time I didn't think it was too odd cause he said if I had important questions about treatments to messaage him. And he never messaged me anything odd. Fast forward to recently. He messaged me asking to take me out. Then I look on his profile and he has a picture of a lady and kids and I look further and he's married! Well I confront him about that and he told me they are only staying together for the kids and the love between them is dead but then why still have her on your page? Anyways I just felt too guilty about conversating with him anymore so I ghosted him. I know sometimes ghosting isn't the most mature but I just couldn't deal with that. I know what it's like to be cheated on. And I have been compelled to reach out to her but I don't want to get into that drama but I would have liked to see for myself if he was being honest but I don't think he was.
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Report him
No,no what you did is perfectly acceptable.
Never go back to him. In fact, if you have receipts of the conversation, I’d go ahead and report him to his practice.
Also, let the wife know as well. I have a hunch that he's lying.
Block and Delete is FDS's bread and butter when dealing with a scrote, so ghosting is totally fine. I'm sorry you have to deal with that creep. Disgusting man.
Ghosting is absolutely the right thing to do here. FDS is firmly pro-ghosting for women. We are more vulnerable than men to being stalked, groomed, gaslit and generally abused, so it's for your own safety to ghost and /or block and delete this scrote.
What a scrote! 1: Report him to the state medical board. He crossed a line. 2: Tell his wife. I mean what a complete scrote!
This man is dangerous. He's a straight-up predator in doctor's clothing.
If you have time and energy, you should report him to your local medical board (or whatever the equivalent is in your country). If I were you, I would also let his wife know.
You're not his first or last victim. He sounds practiced in how he tried to manipulate you. He has probably abused many patients before, and some of these patients may have been more vulnerable than you are. They were probably younger, naive women, maybe even children. From the sounds of it, he will continue abusing patients until he retires or loses his medical license.
P.S. I had a doctor's appointment recently in which I revealed some intimate details about my life, out of medical necessity. I cannot imagine how angry and violated I would feel if my doctor had decided to hit on me after the appointment.
Ghosting is very mature when the men such a trash that he thinks he can bullshit his way into sleeping with other women while being married. I bet if you asked his wife she would say something completely different. He used the classic cheater excuse on the book so he wasn’t being honest, and even if he was honest so what? He was still shady cheater for trying to sleep with you while being married. His reasons are absolutely irrelevant. Why would u even care about his reasons?
Report him to the hospital and the board.
Women are conditioned to be pick mes when there’s a fear that ghosting like this story. Just have awareness that you felt toxic guilt pressures from patriarchy. Don’t let it happen again and put yourself first
Tell his wife too