My boyfriend is too attractive

It is far better to be dating a guy who is very attractive and remains loyal than to be way out of your ugly boyfriends league and yet he's so pornsick he still gawks at other women and attempts to cheat on you.

Believe me, the latter happens WAY too often, and it is much worse.

Many years ago, I dated one man who was similarly attractive. Young women would gawk at him in public, and it did not bother me at all because he paid them no attention. I lost no sleep over it and treated him like any other man I dated.

It sounds like the man you are dating has given you no reason to worry about the female attention he receives. The attention is directed from other women to him, not vice versa.

Keep vetting as if he were any other man, and, as always, listen to your instincts. If something feels off, it's probably off.

Tbh that's just how rare attractive guys are lol. Especiallyon the level where you have to take second look. Through my life I can count with my fingers how many actual attractive guys I saw in daily life. I think it's not a problem if he doesn't give attention to anyone but you. But it's not to say you should ignore anything related to him that make you feel uncomfortable. It's his duty to make you feel secure.

I'm not going to lie there was this guy in college that was ridiculously good looking and seemed like the most attentive boyfriend. He was very committed to his girlfriend turned fiance like he designed and made her engagement ring. The girl friend was very average looking and kinda had a sour personality... I was constantly hoping they would break up because he was my total dream bf. I'm pretty sure girls were constantly throwing themselves at him. He honestly just ignored it and stayed super committed to her never even seemed tempted. Anyways they ended up breaking up eventually because she cheated on him with their roommate. The point is this story is yeah girls probably do want him I'm not going to sugar coat it. But there are guys that don't even notice the attention they get because they are so focused on their SO.

If he is the man who could be snatched - let him! There's nothing you can do to stop him if he lacks the integrity, self control, and commitment and if his moral compass alows him to get swayed by another shiny thing.

The was a study that showed that committed men see other attractive women as a threat to their relationship because they value that existing relationship above all else. These men would not risk throwing it away and chasing a stranger no matter how hot. What you can do is observe and let your boyfriend to show you who he really is.

hmm, weird situation.

I've always dated hot guys, but in my country women do no throw themselves at men.

I would ignore the girls, maybe hang out in some environments that are more male dominated, e.g. sports or gyms?

Honestly, you sound too insecure to be dating right now. Best work on your own self-esteem and confidence before attempting another relationship. A HVM won't want to be with anyone insecure, as it is an unattractive trait, and no one wants to have to constantly reassure their partner.

Think of this as a supply and demand situation.

An unattractive man has no "supply" of women, so he has no experience of women wanting him. He will naturally take any woman's interest as he is so desperate. This is often why ugly ones will cheat or flirt despite having a beautiful woman with them.

Your boyfriend has ample supply of women. His experience is similar to average and even unattractive women's experiences: we are so used to men showing us demand, we don't have to do much to get men's attention, we have supply. What does this do to us? "Dick is abundant and low value". The same perhaps for your boyfriend in this case - it sounds like he isn't bothered by the attention or interested in it - maybe it even bothers him!

You need to read this post by @SayNad who perfectly addresses this

Its his job to make you feel secure always

https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/handbook-posts/let-him-deal-with-it?origin=member_posts_page

You deal with it by maintaining your standards about how you want to he treated and if he falls below your standards you dump him.

Everything else is just fluff and distraction. It doesn't matter what women do in his presence, it matters what he does. Focus on that and the salivating mobs will fall out of focus.

The way to deal with it is to accept that there's nothing you can do about it. If he's a good guy, he'll reassure you that he's not interested in cheating and he seems to already be doing that by telling the other girls that he has a girlfriend. Also, if he's a good guy he can't be "snatched at any moment", he'll stay loyal even when he has the opportunity to cheat because he has self-control and good character. If he has no self-control and bad character he might cheat but there's nothing you can do about it except dumping him and finding someone else who is actually a good person.

I can honestly say I have never bagged me a hot boyfriend. Even though I have been described as really good looking! I’ve always had average :-/

I was dating a really hot guy once but I just couldn’t help but feel insecure about it. He ended up being a player. Am I insecure? Probably! Or did this guy make me feel insecure? More than likely! Your guy sounds like a diamond in the rough though. I’m not sure if I could cope with a hot guy in all honesty but damn I’d like one that doesn’t make me feel insecure lol!

Btw, there are women who'd throw themselves on any man, even the ugly and disrespectful ones. If youf fear is that someone can take away your man than you will never feel safe, regardless of the level of attractiveness of your partner.

Here are my two cents:

Yes this is really anxiety provoking and would make any woman worried and uncomfortable. So keep in mind that you’re normal. The facts are that this man is very physically attractive and you must accept that this comes with the package - the harem of women as others have said above. Do not expect this to ever change. Perhaps with time this guy will stop giving any of these groupies so to speak any attention but I’m getting the impression that he’s just a sweetheart and doesn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings so he will do a quick stop and chat to be nice. Anyway, again, do not expect anything to change. Instead I encourage you to focus on yourself. Anytime you feel fear or anger or jealousy creep up with these girls that you see ogling your man tell yourself “that’s right, that’s my man and he chose me because I am a high value woman.” Maybe that can give you some peace. If you do this anytime you get those intrusive thoughts, it will eventually retrain your brain!

So yes your guy is desirable but take it as a huge compliment that he chose you! You’re compatible with him, you are beautiful inside and out, you are YOU. So just keep building yourself up and loving yourself like crazy. I think you just needed the reminder that you’re amazing and you have nothing to worry about.

I dated 2 great looking guys in the past who made heads turn and they were very sweet and loyal. Unfortunately my own insecurities started sabotaging I think in hindsight. I don’t want to blame myself too much for it though but I do think if I felt more high value and saw my own beauty, I would have felt more deserving and worthy of these guys.

Lastly, looks will fade as you know. Try to focus on how he treats you and maybe remind yourself that every now and then. It’s easy to get swept away by beauty and start letting things slide because you’re captivated by it. You’ll be fine 🤍

Those girls start to behave like males do around average or attractive women. But it doesn't preclude those women to stay faithful to their man

I don't know if you'll see this after so many months, but...

I once dated a beach volleyball player in college. He was gorgeous back then. Very tall, muscular, great tan, gorgeous eyes. (Terrible boyfriend, but that's besides the point.) I was a little less attractive than him, not as athletic as him, but still got plenty of attention.

He would come into the restaurant I worked at, and all the girls I was working will drooled over him (before they knew he was there for me).

It didn't bother me because he was loyal, relatively honest with how he felt about me, and he was serious about his version of his morals. He also expressed how he thought I was beautiful (like he thought I was most beautiful when I was glowing after a hot shower).

It didn't work out because he was a serious himbo, had bad hygeine, and I honeslty wasn't the best girlfried either with depression. The point is, he was steadfast in his commitment to monogamy, and he wasn't seeking validation elsewhere. And I've dated ugly guys that did cheat. So it really depends on the guy, and if he feels comitted to you, and shows you that. If he's always chasing validation from other women, and isn't committed, then beauty for beast, he may cheat on you.

If you're still with him, enjoy the eye candy, and I hope you have a fullfilling relationship!

I have always found it a bit strange how there are so many girls who immediately start to hit on him; can all of those girls really be single? Or maybe they hit on him anyway, and hope for a positive reaction, and then are prepared to immediately dump their boyfriends if they manage to snag him?