.png)
Life isn't as black and white as the handbook. It should be possible to come here in good faith and get some feedback about the nuances of life given that the handbook is actually not applicable to every life situation.
People don't have to reply if they don't want to. Cutting women off for not religiously abiding or for questioning is pretty rubbish and a number of the responses were pretty close to moral purity policing FDS style. What exactly is the point of the forum if all the answers are in the handbook?
I agree that women should be able to ask as many questions as they want on the forum and get helpful advice and constructive criticism. However, this is contingent on the context. While I think it's important to be patient and help other women out as long as they're willing to listen, learn and level up, the problem comes when someone asks a question and responds badly to criticism/advice. Or they ask a question that is so obvious, it could quickly be answered by a quick browse through of the handbook. FDS is based on the handbook. I know it doesn't apply to every situation (especially niche ones) but if you're new to the forum and want to find out more, the handbook should be the first stop. It helps avoid spam in the forum too. Seeing the same basic question again and again can be demoralising for members who would rather have in depth conversations and discuss more pressing issues against an FDS backdrop. At the end of the day, this is a strategy forum and sometimes the only place some of us have to talk with like-minded individuals about current issues. It's just respectful to educate yourself on the basic principles of FDS by looking at the handbook first.
Nobody is stopping you from doing anything or cutting you off in any way. If you come on here and act like a pick-me, the other women will point it out because it’s the right thing to do. If you want to continue to be a pick-me, that’s on you. Painting this place like some kind of female dom gulag is not it.
"Questioning," quickly becomes "sealioning" when done in direct opposition to the purpose of a community that could otherwise not be joined.
You could go to a Jewish synagogue and "question" the existence of Yahweh through the service. You could also not go. You could also not be surprised if the people there give Torah-based answers, don't agree with you, and you're eventually asked to stop interrupting the service...or to leave.
FDS isn't a religion, nor the principles discussed "biblical." But it does have principles and a purpose. If you fundamentally don't agree with any of those things, what is the value of attending or "discussion?"
The same value as going to synagogues to try to "discuss" with the people there why Yahweh isn't real, or "question" whether or not Hitler was "just" misunderstood: zero.
ETA: Grammar, syntax
I can only speak for myself, but I noticed before we left Reddit the tone of the subreddit was becoming very negative. This is the only place on the internet where women can bring a lot of their issues that aren’t even acknowledged in their real life sometimes. And just like people who leave reviews, bad experiences spur one to type out a post more than the good ones. I think the mods just want to remind everyone that even though the odds are against us, we cannot take on a hopeless and bitter attitude. Eventually, I’m sure there will be an FDS support forum or something similar because getting these horrific experiences off our chests is important, but for now it’s a strategy forum and if all the posts are negative or could be solved by reading the handbook, it’s not fair to the women who want to have hope and improve their odds in spite of the state of men. I haven’t seen your posts specifically, I just remember a similar question being asking on the podcast and if I understood correctly, that is the bulk of the reason.
You aren't being policed, it's you that keeps choosing to come on here. No ones holding a gun to your head, don't expect the majority to conform to you. It's like showing up to a ballet forum and wanting it to also focus on knitting, it's pretty fucking stupid as there's probably thousands of online forums dedicated to knitting.
You won't always be liked and people will disagree with you and critique you. You have to deal with it in a healthy way.
I understand your concerns! I personnally share some of it and have expressed it before. However regarding your former post, one of the hard-core principles of FDS is "don't chase". Honestly if you cannot get behind that, it is going to be difficult receiving support here, which is also understandable. You need to agree with the hard-core principles, otherwise FDS is not for you.
Feel free to not come here if you are so offended. We don't coddle pickmes or contribute to their magical wishful thinking. We are here to share experiences, and learn from each other.