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The guy I am seeing has a female friend who is a stripper. They went to vacation together with his other friends and occasionally grab drinks. I never met her cause I have been only seeing him for 2 months. I prefer to date men with no female friends but I am not completely against it either. It's like a yellow flag to me. Today he tells me she is a stripper very causially. I don't know what to make out of it. Is it a red flag?
Edit: thank you so much guys for making me see things clearly. I vetted his Instagram again and found two onlyfan accounts and two soft porn account. I did vetted his account before going on our first date but he has so much followers/following count I kinda ended up missing these accounts. He hasn't mistreated me and in many ways was more than perfect but I know I have to dump him. I am a little disappointed because I haven't felt this much chemistry and comfort with someone before.
Update: I texted him letting him know I don't want to see him anymore and stated my reasons that he follows onlyfans models, instragram thirst trap online and I am uncomfortable with his friend being stripper. In response, he said that if my mind is set up then there is nothing more to stay. He claimed it was just a click and he didn't know they existed. I called him out and said, it's your instragram and you are being bonneted by their nudes everyday, so yes you knew. Then he claimed it's unfair for me to judge him based on online presence. I told him it's very fair because it's a lifestyle. Men who follow onlyfan/insta models has poor self-control, hedonist and overall untrustworthy. He said, he disagree. I said, I expected him to disagree and make excuses which is exactly what he did. I told him I made up mind, and I need time for myself. He didn't respond and continue to follow the models that he allegedly was not were of 🤡.
He also said, he met him a friend in high school and she became stripper later in life. I was like you still chose to stay friends. We stopped talking afterwards.
If he isn't condemning the sex trade, he's supporting it. Men who support the sexual commodification of women's bodies arent allowed to have nice relationships with us. Sorry, but you gotta dump him.
Red flag red flag red flag. Warning: do not proceed! There is no yellow here. I repeat: there is no yellow.
news flash: they're not really friends.
Seriously? Yes it is!
I don’t think they’re just friends either, they’re definitely more. Think about it , going on vacation together and drinking together.
Abort mission. He is exposed to libfem "SeX wErK iS SoO EmPoWerInG" regularly through her and he will likely not back down on it because "I have this friend who is super happy with what she does!!!". I'm not saying people should shun sex workers, they obviously need friends too, but I wouldn't want to date a man who is in any way involved with this.
Absolutely not. I hope you didn’t have super strong feelings. He’s gotta be a liberal feminist at best and just a regular fuckboy at worst.
I dated a guy with a "stripper friend". That's how I got Chlamydia at 21!
I also "vetted" my ex following on Instagram. After we broke up he followed like 50 new soft core accounts. Not just sexy women, but like weird gyrating, flashing, faceless asses, lol .. he UNFOLLOWED them all by a few days later (we were no contact). I remember seeing his most recent emojis were 🥵💦🤤 on our fourth date but I pushed it aside because I thought it was not unethical for a single man to be sexting and he was non belligerent about it. I literally think these men will follow, dm, get rejected or ignored and unfollow. It's bizarre behavior.
I don't even know where you would meet a stripper besides the strip club. And it took me until 26 years old to realize and learn that they are selling sex inside of strip clubs. They are selling services. It is not just a woman shaking her tits.
Sometimes they straight up lie and say they are "freinds with a stripper" or his ex "was a stripper." These are usually fat bold-faced lies just because this man is an asshole and wants to make you feel bad and jealous. Even if it's not a lie, it's still scrote behavior designed to make you feel shitty on purpose. Fuck this guy right off out of your life.
“Friend” we sure she isn’t his prostitute?
This whole thing reminds me of the tinder swindler actually, in the sense that he was scamming all those women just so he could party with these strippers/models/bottle girls on the side 🤒
You may be dating my xLVM. He had several stripper “friends,” that OF COURSE he was just trying to “help out with their tough lives.“ Turns out he was fucking them all plus dating several other women - all of whom thought they were exclusive (like me).
I felt instantly comfy and drawn to him as well. He’s a sociopath, that’s why.
RUN FOR THE HILLS and don’t look back. 👀🏃🏽♀️
Abort mission!
Would a man be okay with his gf having a male stripper friend?
Hell no!
run as fast as you can to that dump, delete, and block!
When a man is "just friends with a woman" its really him just keeping her around as a potential hookup / backup girlfriend. I have seem them keep her as a friend for years trying to wear her down hoping she will "get baby fever" and fear she "hits the wall" so she resorts to him.
The fact that his female friend is a stripper though.... this is even more alarming! I can almost guarantee you that "vacation" and "drinks" is them hooking up .... I wouldn't even be surprised if he pays her for services.
Run. Run. RUN!
This reddit story is immediately what came to mind
https://youtu.be/xFFV42540_s