Men who say sexual things before they’ve even taken you on a date.

Hey, it’s even worse…some of them mention it BEFORE they even talk to you, in their OLD profile itself! Always simultaneously disgusted by the entitlement/relieved that they’re so fucking stupid as to immediately disqualify themselves (god, I hope…)

yes, they're very transactional. they think if there's no sex, than it's a waste of time. they're animals. i don't understand how men are allowed to live in society, honestly....

I think I maybe had maybe 4 interactions when they didn’t mention sex before even meeting. Pretty sad.

 The latest? A man that claims he is looking for a high quality woman that he could marry .  States in his profile that he does not want anything casual, wants the real deal.

 We start messaging and it’s just fine at first .  thanks to Google I confirm he definitely has a job , his own place, and is not married.  pictures are definitely recent .

THEN…. he mentions what act he’d like to perform on me.  He immediately followed up with: “  oh, I’m so sorry- that was out of line! I’m just a very sexual person!”

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They seem to want to "test waters" or something before taking a woman out for dinner 😐

What waters are they testing over a coffee and a walk? Who knows?

They seem so busy trying to save money that they don't even realise what a powerful vetting tool a lunch/dinner date can be for both the sides.

I can appreciate why that would be really annoying but in another sense, these guys are showing you who they really are. If a guy makes sexual comments before he's even taken you on a date, he's making it clear that he views women solely as sex objects and you should just block and delete. I wouldn't be surprised if these men's brains are porn-fried, given that they seem to have lost the ability to talk to women.

Not sure if everyone will agree with (but would like to hear your thoughts). But on dating apps I never swipe on men that have photos without their shirt on.

I always think - if it was a woman, wouldn't they be labeled a who're showing their bikini pics? Then why is it so normalized for men to show their bodies and us having the expectation they are looking for anything serious?

To me it's a red flag that this guy is showing his body trying to look for sexual partners.

Likewise, men that have "not sure/looking for short term fun/casual" obviously are an immediate left swipe.

I don't care for casual sex, so I'm always on the lookout for messages of them trying to test the waters with me. Also flirting about wanting to kiss/or commenting my body on pics I have is also a red flag.

I had one doing the bare minimum consistently and I even got beautiful flowers twice. He was very gentlemanly and only talked about sex to say that it did not equate to love (I am aware he could have just been telling me what he THINKS I want to hear).

However, he then proceeds to tell me about how he summoned a demon using the satanic bible and how he called CPS on one of his exes on a second date! That ex wasn’t even anyone real significant like maybe his ex wife, I can understand, but it was a lady that wasn’t “physically his type” (he’s absolutely no prize himself) but she‘s physically his type enough to go to court over!! I’m just glad and very proud of myself that I am not entertaining it this time and actually told him to go away for the most part thanks to FDS!

Update: so far all the guys have failed bar a small handful. I wonder where this’ll go