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We discussed how it's never a good idea to go 50/50 on a date, but does that aslo apply to tipping? what do you ladies think of men who ask/expect a woman to tip at the end of the date?
Like say he pays for everything until it's time to tip and he asks you to chip in, how would you deal with that? Would you listen to him because it's a common courtesy to give out tips in general? Or would you aslo expect only him to pay the tip?
Is it low value for some clown to expect the woman to pay for the tip as well? Or is it low value for the woman to not tip at all?
And what do you think of this dude's perspective, does it make sense, or does it sound scrotey? 👇👇👇
Sure! If he asks me to tip, I will leave a great tip for our server! But I will also block and delete my date, take myself out for a conciliatory cocktail and sleep soundly knowing that the server was treated well even if I wasn't.
I can afford to go out with my friends or solo for dinner. If I give a guy the opportunity to take me out on a date on the premise of getting to know each other, the least he can do is pay for the date in full. Things might be different at another point in the relationship, but not in the early phase. And I wouldn’t make exceptions.
Besides what the other commenters have said, I want a man to tip because I consider it a vetting strategy? I am not interested in men who are bad tippers or men who don't mind dropping lots of money on dinner but then are stingy with the tip.
Lol, I don't even need to read the article to know whoever wrote it is trash. Since when did men get this in their tiny little brains? Besides that's somehow worse that going 50/50 since he does not value you enough to add a couple of dollars more to a 30 something meal. Really?? Just how many dates with women would a loser like that have lined up, to the point he can't afford to cough up tip money? Seems to me they know women have caught on to the 50/50 BS and are opting for a more subtle approach.
For me it’s his pleasure to be able to take me out so I’m not concerned nor thinking about the paying stuff. That’s for him to deal with. My duty is to show up, be loyal to myself and to assess if this is a man that I would want to continue seeing. I agree above that tipping is an EXCELLENT vetting strategy. Is he an overall generous person. Does he tip well and want to be able to support the restaurant workers? Again you can get alot of info on the way a man tips!!
A man asking you to tip is a power play. He damn well can afford the tip (if he can’t, that’s another problem in and of itself), but wants your contribution so he doesn’t have to feel 100% used, if ya’ll don’t work out. It’s petty and dramatic which is a huge red flag. If he asked me, this is EXACTLY what I’d do: I’d respond loud enough for other patrons to hear, “oh, you can’t afford the tip and didn’t prepare to fully cover our first date, that you asked me on? Sure, no worries, I’ll pay the tip because you can’t afford it.” Then I’d drop a hefty cash tip on the table, and look him dead in the eye and say, “you should leave now.”
I would laugh and never speak to him again.
"Wow, okay! First and last time for everything, I guess!" would be my reaction. It goes without saying that I would not see him again.
Lol imagine being with a man this petty and not being turned off... sigh the bar is in
Yeah, nope. Tipping is part of the date.
I may offer, to show gratitude and all, but inviting someone out and then asking them to do that would run contrary to conventional manners.