Has anyone noticed this? I've had men do this to me as well as heard or watch men do this to other women.
Men have a problem with us when we show anger or any negative emotion. They feel weirded out by the woman's show of anger to something unfair that has happened to her and feel like the woman is "creating drama". I remember watching a lady called Sharon on an a dating show, get angry with a guy (Harry) for insulting her friend (Emily). Sharon told Aaron, the guy she was coupled up with, that she didn't like how Harry had disrespected Emily by making a sexist joke and immediately Aaron, got uncomfortable with Sharon going to tell Harry off. Sharon wasn't out of control but she sternly told Harry off. Aaron ran off to tell the other guys how Sharon was causing drama and it was making him rethink being with her. I remember being so annoyed at his sudden change of heart towards her, all because she showed a "negative" emotion.
Men have this warped idea that women are supposed to be sunshine and rainbows 24/7 and when we're not, we're broken or defective. It's another form of misogyny in that men don't see us as full human beings that can feel and express a range of emotions.
This trait of theirs really annoys me. It's so condescending.
Imagine if all women everywhere freely expressed their anger. The world would be a beautiful place instead of the hellscape that men have turned it into.
I find my anger to be powerful. I have never been a "hot" person, but people can definitely tell when I am angry, and yes, they get worried by it. Only men have run away from it though!
When I feel my anger I channel it; I perceive it as a need for something to change. And by God, either the situation changes or I leave. I don't care if they show a sudden change of heart or try to prevaricate - to me that's just useful information that this is a useless scrote.
But yeah, it's aspect side of "smile, love." The woman-bot has stopped working correctly!
the one who says he "hates drama" is the biggest Drama King of them all...every time.
It’s the reason why I still bottle things up and go Kaboom when it’s the final straw. Women are always told they are immature for showing anger, time of the month or called a raging b!tch.
But I do not let that stop me from taking action. I will not let other ppl decide if I’m overreacting or not or that my hurt feelings shouldn’t be the reason why I end contact with someone.
I stop talking and I start walking.
I let them figure out what they have done that crossed the line, that’s probably the only time men will ever use their heads.
Its also my New Years resolution. When my feelings are hurt or I feel offended I will not stay with the idea that walking away is immature. I say nothing stand up and quietly get my things and leave.
Oh, absolutely! One of my exes would reject and punish me for displaying any negative emotion. That would cause further pain, and when I tried to express that, he would literally think I’m putting on a show to manipulate him 🙄 He was a real piece of work. More recently, I went through a phase of arguing with scrotes online (I know, I know) and they would get triggered af that I wasn’t “being nice”. Pff, I was just bringing up some data about gender-based violence and shutting down “what about men”. It seemed that even the slightest bit of pushback threatened or annoyed them, they couldn’t really stay on the topic and would eventually start to criticize me and "my tone".
I can't tell you the amount of times a man has ended things with me or just shut down as soon as I cried in front of him or showed stress.
Tbh as much as it's important to show your anger, I find that not showing men anger is much more amusing. Especially the ones which try to get the rise out of you on purpose. They hate being ignored and not receiving the reaction they expect.
Or pretending you don't see the disrespect, and blocking and deleting them right after is pretty funny too.
Narcissistic men love pushing your boundaries until you blow up so they can say how "dramatic" or "oversensitive" you're. And they'll convince other people, even other women, to believe that.
But it applies only to scrotes you have no interest in, if you date a guy, you must show your anger to him to see how he handles that.
What I'm saying is - show anger, but to right people. Lots of them are not worth the hassle.
Misogynists get mad at women for simply having resting/neutral faces. Doesn’t even have to be anger. They see it as rejection or an insult.
I’m sure almost all of us had at least one experience where a man pressured us to smile when we didn’t feel like it.
Elliot Rodger frequently mentioned in his manifesto that, he got really angry if an attractive woman wouldn’t smile back at him. He was filled with joy for a whole week just from one attractive woman smiling in his direction.
Men want women to smile because it gives them validation and fuels their egos. When a woman is angry or has a neutral face they get nervous, especially when other men are around.Their egos are threatened so they make comments or even act violently to project their insecurities onto the woman.
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Heck, lvm still get mad at happy women. Being happy about something that doesn’t revolve around them personally is enough to trigger a misogynist. Men get mad at, happy cat ladies and women who are happy with their careers.
It’s not enough to be bubbly and a constant happy ray of sunshine. You’re expected to be happy because of the lvm‘s presence and attention. Even if he’s an insufferable smelly creep. Even if you don’t even know him and you’re minding your own business. Even if he was an abusive pos to you 10 minutes ago.
If a man doesn’t know why a woman in his presence is smiling or laughing he gets insecure,. They feel entitled to knowing what she’s so happy about and he wants to give his unsolicited opinion/negg her.
A man once asked me if I was crying to try to manipulate him. Some of them are so emotionally stunted they can't comprehend showing any vulnerability as genuine
It happened to me at work. I have a younger coworker who deflects tasks eventho it's related to her line of work and unfortunately our male supervisor supports her. One day when my own work is overwhelming, I have to ask her something but instead of giving me the thing she's just complaining. That's where I exploded, and just after that she did what I ask. Until today that coworker is still acting like that. My supervisor said women create drama, the men can end a conflict quicker. Idk, the only way to solve this conflict is for my coworker to pull her own butt but she's still avoiding work she doesn't like and supervisor is still being agreeable to her 🙄 Now I wonder if the men he referred are throwing things under the rug and not actually resolving it, considering he can't even help me solve this without making me work more.
Yes. My dad told me that no one will ever want to be with me if I keep showing my anger
Only scrotes think that
Instead of getting mad when my future ex-husband berated me for letting him run out of gas, I laughed. Facts: I signalled to turn into the gas station to fill up the tank and he got mad and said there was lots of gas even though I argued and pointed at the E for Empty. He said it really wasn’t. He used the car next and ran out of gas. He blamed me. Hilarious. He brought it up later during other grievances and I laughed again. Call me too soon old but too late smart, but I could’ve stopped him harping on a lot things sooner if only I laughed because - it worked every time! I didn’t dare try that on my physically abusive future ex-husband before him though…
I personally think this is because many men’s brains are rewired and broken due to constant access to porn in their pocket. Because they scroll through many images of women smiling and exposing them for the male gaze, in their mind that is what a woman is. So they have a breakdown when a woman in real life shows signs of being a human. Their capacity is limited to seeing women as smiling and pretty, as they keep swiping different poses. Ideally the women don’t talk and certainly don’t have any emotions other than smiling.