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I have been dating this guy for around 2 months. He paid for the dates.
Today we went to play tennis with a couple of friends and me and him arrived earlier and we had to pay for 1/4 each one (we’d split in 4).
He didn’t offer to pay my part, I felt quite offended. Am I exaggerating?
He knows I pay rent, I pay therapy, I don’t have family here and I make less than him. He knows all of that.
He doesn’t pay rent (his father bought him a house), and he assumed he spends money with a lot of bullshit. I felt quite offended he didn’t offer to pay my part for the activity (it was 20 euros each).
(Anyways 30 minutes ago I dumped him, we won’t be dating anymore) but I just wanted to know what FDS opinion is on this matter: when you go on dates only the 2 of you is totally fine he pays everything, but what about group activities? Given that we arrived earlier (the others weren’t there, so it wasn’t automatically split in 4) he could’ve at least offered to pay my part in my opinion. What do you think?
There are guys who will pay for you in group settings AND check on your friends to see if they need drinks or food ordered.
And never ask you to pull out your wallet or the friend they checked on.
Literally went out with co-workers and the guys handled everything, even 1 who never met me before
Because their priority is making sure everyone has a good time. And they have fun when everyone is having fun.
He sounds cheap and inconsiderate — 20 euros is nothing, especially if he’s making more than you and not paying rent. Good lord. A worthy suitor will never allow his date to pay her way, or make her uncomfortable about money.
At least he showed you his true colors early on so that you don’t have to waste any more of your valuable time with him.
I think it’s rude to not pay for you. He invited you out to play tennis right?
I treat that the same as dates. My bf and I sometimes go out with his friends or my friends and he still pays for me. so I think it’s wrong that he didn’t pay for you. I’m glad you dumped him
I think situations like this are where actually generous men will set themselves apart from men who only pay for dates because it's "expected" or to make you think they are generous.
A man with a provider mindset or who cares about impressing you and your comfort would have paid for you (and even the other couple given the chance... being openly generous not just to you but to other people as well would have been an easy way to impress).
He should’ve 100% paid for you! Honestly I went through a similar situation with my now LVM ex. It was myself, him and his two friends doing this group activity thing. He didn’t offer to pay for me so I had to pay for myself. He even made me pay first before him and all his friends. Meanwhile on dates he paid for everything, never let me bring out my wallet. Don’t know what kind of facade he was trying to show off to his friends. Anyways glad you dumped that guy! You deserve better if he can pay for dates I’m not seeing why he cannot also pay for you in group activities especially since you guys went early too smh.
A man should pay for a woman If he asked her out. If she invited herself then no.