Men losing interest

If a man does not ask you out within a week after matching, unmatch him. I recommend unmatching even sooner, like 3-5 days. With OLD, you are giving men the opportunity to discover and pursue you. You are absolutely not looking for pen pals or to fill a void of their loneliness. Only a small sliver of men on OLD are actually willing and able to ask a woman on a date. The rest want you for idle entertainment or an ego boost between watching pxrn or playing video games. Never even attempt to "hold a man's interest," that's not your job.

Leave when his energy changes. That is, when they are “not as talkative” anymore.

Block & delete the moment you realize this.

You're overthinking. What are you losing by blocking these people? You're not losing out on people who don't make you feel special.

As soon as they start with their internal monologue (WHY DO THEY DO THIS, no-one wants to listen!!!), leaving the conversation is the right response.

There's nothing harsh about telling people that they're out of line.

OLD to me is random people on the internet, and if it leads to something meaningful in person, then it’s something.

More often than not, it doesn’t go anywhere. It’s good for practicing boundaries in conversations, a bit of talking to people online, if you want that kind of thing. It's not really possible to make meaningful friendships.

Blocking ✅ You don’t need to say anything.

Your time and energy is precious, any interaction with you is a big deal. If they’re wasting their opportunity, BLOCK.

I used to try and make those people change, the nice guy act has fizzled out, they don't want to tell you that and just want to neglect the platonic relationship they have with you without looking like a douchebag. I met a person on OLD and after a year he started to change. And I felt awful and tried to save it by going out of my way to seem fun again and have him be caring and talkative like when we first met. You need to understand that the nice guy act has a lifespan of a month to within a year. don't allow yourself to get hurt by ppl who willingly allow to neglect the things you've build up and just block and delete.

Men are the nicest and most generous to you when they haven't slept with you and If you can't be used as a booty call then they lose interest.

I tolerated a lot from men, perverted talk, Him talking about sex, and when the nice guy act dropped I dealt with an increasing amount of disrespect and I should have pulled the plug months ago.

Don't entertain these people and just block. You aren't missing out on leaving them behind, but you miss out on a lot by keeping them, If your efforts fall in a bottomless pit, If men don't respond to you like an Echo in a well like when you say Hello you get an Hello back, just as cheery ands welcome as yours then you know what to do.

If you won't leave them behind then they will leave you behind in the worst and petty way ever.

Don't give second chances because you didn't sign up for a change.

If you sign a contract with the things you agree with and things are added in the contract you didn't sign up for then you have a right to reject and toss it away.

Don't feel bad tossing men away as soon as they change.

It's either one for all, all for one or he needs to go.

I rarely match with anyone on OLD and I tend to unmatch or block without even talking to them for a day or two. A lot of men ask me out after messaging for a day but I decline or unmatch cause it’s low effort. Let’s meet for coffee, drinks, bla bla bla or they say something stupid (most of them do) or send me paragraphs and good morning/goodnight messages. Not interested. I used to check dating apps all the time when I had them but now and after FDS, I barely notice it and go on it when I’m really bored and have nothing to do so it’s not impacting my life but I have it out there in the universe that I’m not closed to finding someone 🤷🏻‍♀️ Sorry for rambling 😆 I just like the apps because I can practice vetting, put FDS standards in place and get used to blocking and rejecting men.

i think you can deal with this however you prefer. you feel like telling "i'm no longer interested in talking to you"? go ahead and say it. you just want to block and delete? then block and delete. they won't die because of it. and regarding boundreis, i think you should always make them clear somehow and that's not rude. if they think you're rude because you said something politely, they are the problem.

i have a straight male friend that could have written this post. he's bee looking for a serious relationship for years and complains about the exact same things. he mostly complains that women don't talk to him even though he tries his best to keep a conversation. they leave him hanging for days until he gets tired of trying and doesn't bother to keep texting them because he'd be talking to himself. i don't know, maybe he's boring and/or tries to use them as therapists because he thinks that's how you connect with someone (a lot of people do that).

i think it's a symptom of how people got lazy regarding human interactions online (and in person too). they say "talk" but don't really want to talk. they want to speak about themselves. they say "connect to someone" but they don't want to connect to no one. they want somebody who caters to their needs. they say "meet the one" but they don't even know what they're actually looking for in a partner...

but when it comes to men, there's always other stuff. like, most of them grew up watcing porn playing lots of video games. so they crave novelty and excitement. they look for women online because they're bored and horny. but they don't care about connection, about getting to know someone. that's too much work. they just want new meat. new nudes. new whatever. i got tired of men who would either talk like cave men or try too hard to prove they are feminists instead of showing me who they trully were to let me decide if we were in fact a good match. it's like they really don't care about compatibility. that's also why we see old men chasing young women. we keep asking "what would a middle-aged man have in common with a college girl???" - nothing. they want college girls because they find them attractive.

Their "talk" needs to be moving briskly in the direction of a date or BLOCK AND DELETE.

Also, pre-date video calls are a good way to screen out LVMs. If the video call feels uncomfortable, real life will be worse, and don't bother with the date.

OLD is pointless in my opinion because there are just too many pickmes to choose from. It’s full of LVM looking for as many they can find. The odds of finding a HVM on there are very slim.