I know that it's generally advised to avoid giving your phone number out as a woman in the beginning stages, and to use a google phone number. But what do you think of men who give their phone number to you first without asking and just say "text me"? I've had men ask for my number and socials before, but this is something I've been noticing more in the last year or so (not sure if I just didn't notice it before or if it's always been a thing) - some men will just say something to the effect of text me/call me/etc and give me their number, without asking if it's okay to move off the app or if it's okay to exchange numbers.
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I decided not to ever call or text them first. It's a laziness thing with them. They can use one of the many messaging apps.
I feel like usually who do this are hurriedly trying to get you off the dating website and have your personal contact. 🤔 I get bad vibes from men who give out there phone numbers expecting me to call them or text them . Subtly trying to male us chase them 🙄 typical old boring pua
It's a game these lazy scrotes use to get you to chase them and initiate as the pursuer.. Here's a video that explains this scrote phenomena https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VOjnv67r4hs
Don’t accept and don’t chase. They need to pursue and court
So he wants me to do the work of contacting him and initiating the conversation? Absolutely not. That is lazy scrote behavior.
Laughable. If a man did that to me I'd throw his number away.
Interesting timing bc this happened to me on Sunday. Has pursued from the beginning, generous with compliments etc. this is the only thing that’s given me pause. In the second to last line he sent his number and said “keep in touch”. Haven’t responded. Why not just ask for mine? It’s such a seemingly small thing but I won’t just overlook it.
Sorta related question. I'm from Europe and the Google phone number feature isn't available where I live. What alternative do you give to men who want your number/socials ? They usually ask for Instagram or Whatsapp, but both are restricted to family and friends.
This is an old post but I just had this happen to me and had to search in the forum because I could have sworn it was a topic already. I met someone at a friend's party last weekend and he was heavily flirting with me all night, and I was receptive to it and hoping he would ask for my number. Instead, he asked for my phone so he could give me his number, and I let him. I immediately texted him just so he'd have my number too because, as others have said, I don't want to be put in the position of initiating communication. I wasn't particularly turned off by him giving me his number, but it's been almost a week and I haven't heard a peep from him since the party. I've been expelling more mental energy over this guy than I should because it's been SO LONG since I've met someone who I feel a connection with. I keep questioning if maybe I didn't show enough interest at the party for him to feel comfortable pursuing me. BUT he has my number. If he wanted to talk to me, he would!