.png)
On social media many women share horrid and terrifying experiences of their boyfriend or husband becoming abusive WHILE they were in labour or after they got married.
However I can't help but wonder, did he really manage to wear the mask of a kind high value man all the way until the pregnancy or marriage ? I heard that most people cannot fake after 3 months. Was there really no red flags or signs before these moments where he suddenly got abusive ? As honestly women overlook red flags often, most of us have been there.
I read an autobiography book about the female authors journey to self love. She described a step father who beat her mother , but the beating didn't start until he had isolated her by buying a home far from her relatives. But she said that even before this, this man would mock her appearance (she is a woman of colour) and make his sons laugh at her. He sounded like a prick before they even moved into the new house and he got violent.
Men can be convincing that they're an amazing partner, but to keep that act for 6 plus months ?? Is this a thing ?
"However I can't help but wonder, did he really manage to wear the mask of a kind high value man all the way until the pregnancy or marriage ?"
Nope.
There were early signs but women are conditioned to gaslight themselves, give the benefit of the doubt and explain everything away. Abusive men don't go from 0-100 overnight. That's why FDS teaches to leave at the first red flag.
Psychiatrists have said that the mask can be maintained for 2 years. Males take off their masks when they believe they "have you" and that you aren't going anywhere. My ex husband took his mask off 15 days after we got married. I should have annulled the marriage right then and there, but I'd just turned 25 and believed in love and marriage. I believed marriage meant something. 🤣 I was a BIG dummy.
https://reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/UmM4LHrYcX
I made a post about this a while back 😥
As someone who was in an abusive relationship, they often show it way before you realize it. My ex was a total prick like 6 months in but I ignored it because I was "in love".