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I’m sure many of us have seen the viral video of the girl crying about how her boyfriend dumped her after telling her he wanted to move to Texas to be with his dad. She dropped her friends, job and overall lifestyle and moved to Texas from LA for and with him. She took a hit to her savings making this move….only for her boyfriend to go on a family holiday, return from it, sit her down and hand her a note saying that they’re not compatible and should break up. He then proceeds to move to another state to be with his mother, leaving her in the new place she moved into with him. He says this after 3 years of being together and her saying she’d move for him. He couldn’t even open his own mouth to end things with her; he had to hand her a note. He didn’t think to end things with her much earlier or at least before she overhauled her life for him. Yup, that’s how cowardly men are. He clearly didn’t want to be with her and never did (we know men, she was never his dream girl. She was “Miss Right Now) and was too cowardly to tell her. Why? Because she was giving him lots of benefits of course and he wasn’t going to miss out on those 😒
Men’s cowardliness is ever present and I experienced it this evening. I dashed out to a supermarket near my house and as I was walking by a guy on a bench who didn’t look homeless and honestly looked like he was trying his luck to see how much money he could make. As I walked past him, he asked me for money and I ignored him, looking straigh on, only to pass him and hear him call me a “bitch”. I turned around, glared at him and asked “What did you say?” He started looking around him and didn’t look at me, pretending he didn’t know who said it. Before walking away, I said “I thought so” and walked on. I was very tempted to insult him back but thought to not bother. He was proud enough to call me a bitch but the minute I refused to let it go and challenged him, he was suddenly mute. I only said somehthing because people were passing by. I wouldn’t have bothered if I was on my own because men are crazy and I was not trying to be attacked.
Has anyone experienced something similar before? Have you seen the video of the girl I’m talking about? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
I saw that video, very heartbreaking. It reminded me of when I was moving across the country. My FedEx guy whom I was cordial with said, "You're not moving for a man, are you? Don't ever move for a man!" Even he knew. (I was moving for a job.)
I once was walking down a city street and realized a man was keeping pace with me. I started walking faster to lose him, he started walking faster to stay right by my side. I slowed then. He slowed. Eventually I slowed to a complete stop. He slowed to a stop and just stared at me.
I was scared at first, then I became filled with rage. It was the middle of the day and people were around so I just let loose. I started yelling at him to stop following me. He went from looking smug to looking terrified. People turned to look at him. He tried to meekly explain that he's allowed to be on a public street. I yelled and yelled, saying leave me alone, stop following me, creep, etc. When I started walking again, he stayed put. Yeah, total cowards.
Three rules she violated:
Never move in with a man if you are not married to him. (Even if you are engaged, weddings can be called off at the last minute. And in many U.S. states, the woman has to return the engagement ring to the man if she does not marry him.)
Three years without a ring is two years too long without a ring. She should’ve bounced after a year without serious talk about an engagement.
Never spend money moving in with a man. If he wants you to move in, he pays for everything. He should be paying all your combined bills anyway. If he can’t afford it, then he’s not ready for you to move in.
My sob story. I had a 5 year relationship with a guy and lived with him for 3 years (I know, will never happen again). I hated the city we lived in but I stayed because he constantly future faked me, telling me we'd move away and start a better life soon. He said he was saving all his money for us. I had no friends and was very depressed so I just accepted the bullshit. One day he went to 'stay with his mother' for the weekend. Looking back, I think he was out cheating. He called me from wherever he was and broke up with me over the phone. After 5 years. Wouldn't give me a reason. Came back the next day to pack up his shit, then he immediately moved out, leaving me with all the rent and bills I couldn't afford on my minimum wage job. A lot of men get a kick out of trapping women and then leaving us at our most vulnerable. DO NOT MOVE FOR A MAN unless you were already planning to move there. This means you have an established job, a place of your own, network of friends, and good amount of savings. He has to just be a sidenote in your life, so that you will be completely fine if you break up.
Women NEED to tell eachother abput the placeholder curse. Three years and no ring, plans to move without her... she isthe placeholder GF. We need to dump them as soon as we sense this.
Do not everrrrr move for a man if you are unmarried. Don't move in with him and don't move for him.
Poor girl, but I have a feeling she's going to create the most badass life for herself after this.
This happened to me. I naively moved from one state to another for my ex fiance, only for him to dump me 3 months after I moved there. But then I was stuck in a 12 month lease, and an 18 month work contract. So I couldn't move back.