Have you had these experiences and how did you approach this? It's not really common that I go out with someone who seems like a great person and would treat you well, and they are attractive, and do everything right, but I'm not really attracted to their personality. I probably have a gut feeling they are not for me but I'm wondering, if I'm not being wise and am missing something in my thinking that's keeping me from success finding a partner. 25f
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Option one: you are not attracted to him and he is simply not your guy. it's possible.
Option 2: (it happens) you're so used to trash guys/unhealthy dynamics, that it's shaped your relational template, so that a normal, that genuinely safe HVM seems 'boring' to you and you're turned off/not attracted b/c he doesn't 'excite' you (ie doesn't push your trauma buttons).
Either way, it's all about you.
Ie i would never say oh he;s a nice guy so give him a chance. This, as with anything, is an opportunity to centre yourself, look within, and get in touch with what YOU truly want.
I used to find 'safe' guys unattractive.
Now I can more discern when I'm just not attracted to the guy himself, vs the 'safety'.
It saves me, and them, a lot of time.
Good luck!
Your gut is always right, trust it.
Most of those are very clingy is my experience.