Hey queens. So I am using bumble bff And agreed to meet a few people I clicked with in person However, the past 2 years of the pandemic I have solely focused on work and went through a breakup so I haven’t done anything nor have gone out. i have social anxiety and am wondering what the hell we are going to talk about when we meet. Can you guys give me some examples of outings you had with meeting new people off? What you guys talked about? I’m overthinking this but again, I have social anxiety, and doing my best to get back out there after a rough patch. I talk to people all the time for work but that just feels…different. Thank you guys!
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Okay I am kind of an introvert too but I will try answering this because this stuff has worked for me(somewhat):- Meet at a restaurant so when there is a lull in the conversation, you can just switch to discussing menu, food items, cost, food preferences, dietary choices etc. Start with name, where are they from, work, hobbies and all. Deep dive into their hobbies part- if there is some hobby you have in common, then discuss that in detail. If the hobby is something unique / different from what you like, ask how they first started it, how did they learn it etc. This gives them some chance to talk about something they are passionate about. Then career- ask about what they do, what they studied, how is the day-to-day like, about colleagues, future plans etc. Then you can ask them if they have any friends in the city- if the meeting goes well and you like the person, you can expand your circle this way. Fill the lulls in the conversation by discussing menu, food, commenting positively on their outfit, any accessories that catches your eye and then you can ask where you prefer to shop from and get more recommendations and options that way. At the end, if you enjoyed the meet, you can offer to go to a second location for dessert nearby so you can walk together. This is all just from the top of my head, apologies for any errors