Last minute date - meaning

Saying yes to a last-minute date tells the man that you either have no plans or that you are willing to drop things for him. Both ways, he expects to be you to make him the biggest priority tonight and you haven't even been on a single date yet.

Personally, I always have plans. Often those plans are Me Time, doing what I need to do to prioritise myself and my goals.

This isn't about playing hard to get. You want to be hard to get. Once you have decentred men from your life and learned to prioritise yourself, making dates for a time that suits you will come naturally. Your needs matter. And if they genuinely want to be in your life, they need to understand that. Most men don't.

Accepting last minute dates is accepting low effort investments from him from the get go, even if it’s a table for Hell’s Kitchen restaurant it doesn’t matter, you point a date you are available and you tell him he can arrange it on that certain date you gave him or you tell him that you aren’t available for any last minutes date and he’ll have to work from there.

Always. Appear. To be. Busy. "Sorry can't do Friday or this weekend, maybe next week? But not the Saturday".

I never had a good Monday night date, so that’s already a bad sign. Guys who never take you on a Saturday night date already have a gf.

Any time I accepted a last minute date, the male treated me terribly. For instance, back in 2019 I’d met this lawyer at happy hour whilst I was waiting for my girl friend to show up at the bar. He texted me a couple days later on Friday afternoon asking if I wanted to have a drink and dinner after work. I was having a rough day at work, so I said, “Why not?” That resulted in him meeting me for drinks, lying about us going to a nice restaurant for dinner, getting into a cab with him, and him giving the taxi driver his address and not the restaurant’s address. When we got to his place, I was shocked and said, “This isn’t a restaurant!” He thought he could f*ck me just because I’d accepted a last minute invitation. I’d lowered my value in his eyes by being “spontaneous“ like all men claim they like women to be.

do these men think we're call girls or something

Unless it’s in an established friendship or relationship where both people are truly spontaneous, then I think it’s ok. But 99% of the time it means you’re an afterthought/their first choice couldn’t or didn’t want to go/they don’t respect your time. Also, the other Queens have great advice!

You did the right thing.

if he cared, he would have planned something nice for you two to do together.he would have planned smoething thoughtful, based on your preferences, or at least on what you both like. last minute fate means "i'm horny. let's see who's available" and you deserve better.

I'm interested in the "trying to get close to you?" ... did he ask for your number, and then call you? It's good that you said "no". What do you think about him generally? I think the movies feels like a much later date in a relationship.. it's quite intimate, sitting in the dark and not talking, knees touching, sharing popcorn etc. Surely a dinner is the way forward. for a first date.. who wants to date a man who just wants to sit in the dark with you?!!!