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I (22F) went on a date with a guy from Bumble (29M) and he followed me on Instagram before we met up. I saw that he only posted travel pictures and a few pictures of himself, and he had one photo that somebody took of him holding hands with his ex girlfriend from behind so you can’t see her face. In his tagged photos, there are several photos from her page of them together when they were still a couple last year.
Before going on an in-person date with him I asked a few of my friends and searched online to see what people think about keeping photos of exes on social media profiles.
Personally, I never post photos of people I am dating, and I delete every photo of exes from my camera roll when the relationship is over.
However, I read the opinions of many people online who say they keep photos up because it’s their “history” that will never change, or they are simply too careless to delete it, and some men say that if their ex is “super hot” they’ll keep the photos up just so that other women they date will be like wow he must be top shit if he dates attractive women.
I ignored my gut feelings and went on the date. Surprise surprise, he mentions his ex within the first 5 minutes of conversation. It was after I mentioned my career goals that he compared his exes career goals to mine. He continues to tell me that she was very “insecure and jealous” because he lives as an “independent man“ (in other words, he probably did suspicious shit and cheated) and they lived together for a year, she wanted to get married and have kids but he didn’t.
Also, it became clear to me that he took pride in destroying his exes self-esteem, probably because she has a large following on Instagram as a model/influencer so she definitely does not have limited dating options and he must’ve been insecure/jealous of her.
I knew that there wasn’t going to be a second date because I had to refuse his suggestion to get a hotel for us to have sex towards the end of our date. He made it clear that his goals were only to have sex with me. After I told him that I don’t have causal sex, he told me that he is going to travel this summer and will hook up with other women, and that I should date other men until he comes back so we can continue to date... LMFAO
This was my first date with a guy after 8 months of not dating/remaining celibate. Quite a negative experience even though I tried to remain optimistic and have fun while vetting throughout the process. Now I know that it’s definitely a red flag to keep photos of exes because it means unfinished business. What do you think?
🚩bumble is trash 🚩 having exes still up is pathetic. Even still being tagged in their photos is a red flag. My petty ass untags and I will remove every like and comment I left on their page. Idc how long it takes 🚩 don't ignore gut 🚩 that's quite the age gap. I just personally think women in their early 20s should only go 3 years up. A man that's damn near 30 only wants to use the college girl as a trophy and to feel young again :/. How old was the ex? 🚩 I had to harass my ex into deleting the 3 group photos he had with her. Like I don't care if there's other people and that it was 3 years ago, get rid of it. And if she was so horrible and racist, why is she still up there? That's what made me feel like all the shit he was talking was a lie 🙄
I recently matched with a guy who had his social profile linked to his account. Within a few swipes through photos, I saw images of him with an ex. Even if they're not on/off or even if he's not interested in getting back with her, this is his dating profile. If he's going to be that careless and 'absent minded' with his DATING PROFILE... well.. that doesn;t um, bode well?
UGH I gave a man the benefit of the doubt for this and he just got back together w his on/off gf while he continued to date me. If he keeps her pics there then BARE MINIMUM they are on/off and you're filler
Wow. I suddenly forgot why I wanted to start dating again? Lol. What trash
Omg what a troglydite. Asking for a hotel hook up on the first date.
It's a numbers game to them, they even admit it. But only to get women into bed, not to find... The One. (Though they claim that finding The One BEGINS will an immediate "sexual compatibility" check.)
Ex pix on social media is triangulation.
This crop of porn sick Drama Princes has two modes: Triangulation and Strangulation.
Bums.
Honestly I still have photos of my ex on Facebook with our child. But I made them all private. I rarely go on FB (I access it for a moms group in my city only), but I have no time to go over 300+ pics. We were together for 8 years 🤢
Lost me at the age gap
Hmm..how long was he with his ex? I am a female but was in a 9 year relationship😞 but broke up after he cheated on me however i have so many photos of him and also with mutual friends from 9 years of history it is really difficult to delete all plus especially those with our mutual friends where i want to keep for memory sake. I think this maybe very subjective depending on the duration of the relationship and how involved each party’s were with their friends/family. 😩😭
no