Isn't THIS an interesting irony about men?

I've been watching a dating show where men and women go on dates every week. After a series of dates, they are called in by the host of the show, to talk about what they liked about the people they were dating and what they didn't like. The women gather to talk about the men and the men gather to talk about the women.

They are then tasked with picking two men and two women they feel have some things to work on. Usually, the one who they feel has more issues than others, is told that they are not ready to continue the process. When the men have the power to eliminate women, one man takes out one woman that they feel has issues she can fix and they feel deserves to remain on the show and one man takes out a woman they feel isn't ready to continue the journey and must leave the show. The women do the same thing for the men.

This week, men had the power. They gave feedback to both women - Sierra and Jessica - and sent Sierra home. Jessica was told that she was "combative" and needed to work on that. Jessica felt upset that she was called that and had another one of the ladies that she's become close to, and is the real combative one, Janelle, gather all the men in the room to ask them if they all thought that way about her. There were only four men left and all of them, including the guy who said it, Chris, denied saying it. You could see how uncomfortable they were to own up to who said it.

Watching this reminded me of how men tend to be terrified of being honest with women. Whether that's telling a woman that she has some traits she needs to work on or telling a woman that they are no longer interested in dating her. When they don't like a woman, what do they tend to do? Ghost her, become distant and withdrawn or outright mean which involves them doing things that leaves the woman confused. An example of "being mean" is a man suddenly complaining about everything his partner does which we know tends to happen when the man wants to cheat or is cheating and wants out of the relationship. He acts this way to get the woman to be the one to end the relationship.

The irony is that men in one breath will be terrified of being honest with us because "they don't want to hurt us" and don't want to look like the bad guy but in the same breath, they'll do worse things that guarantee us a world of hurt like cheating on us, being passive-aggressive, argumentative, ungrateful and outrightly abusive. Cheating is a big one. Many men will say they cheated because they didn't like aspects of the relationship but they never think to talk to their partner about their dislikes. Instead, their solution is to hurt their partner in the worst way, by choosing another woman over her.

I laughed watching these men squirm when they felt cornered by the ladies. Owning up was such a frightening task for them which was interesting, especially because when talking with the men and the host of the show, it was obvious that Chris felt justified to call Jessica combative, yet he ran scared when it was time to tell her to her face.

Men like Chris Watts are a perfect example of this type of behaviour. Why do I say so? Because one of the reasons he took his wife, unborn son and daughters' lives was because he was scared of the reaction he would've gotten from people if they learnt that he left his family for another woman. What was his solution to avoid his community looking at him differently? Taking the lives of his family. Wouldn't it have been much better to have left the family and leave his wife and children alive? Sure, he would've looked bad but those four people would still be here. And yet, men say that they are the "logical ones". How it made sense to him to be a murderer above everything else astounds me but of course, another issue with him was arrogance. He didn't think he'd get caught.

Has anyone noticed this strange behaviour with men? Please let me know of your own experiences wit this type of behaviour.