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I dated this scrote and we broke up because his mask fell after sex. It was devastating because I wasn't with anyone in 4 years and I thought I would never be betrayed again.
Anyways, it was so devastating that I initiated therapy and I am even taking antidepressants because he was the trigger for other conditions that I already had.
I live abroad and basically I have just one close friend here.
This close friend once met this scrote because went to dinner together through common friends and he even made jokes about how she was cute and nice. I ignored because at that time we were not dating anymore (we later got back together and then broke up again).
Anyways, after three months of breaking up with this scrote, yesterday I found out on her profile that they follow each other.
I had just finished therapy and me and the therapist were just talking about him and how I was feeling better. I decided to see this profile just to make sure I had no feelings anymore and then I found this out..
I asked her if he had asked to follow her and she said "yes I thought it was ok" and she also followed him back. And he is been liking her photos.
I asked other friends what they thought and they said : well it's ok they are both single why are you bothering".
LIKe seriously????? She is my only friend, she knows I'm on antidepressants because of that, how can this be normal?
Why didn't she tell me the scrote asked to follow her? And I even sent her a text yesterday asking her to block him because I don't feel comfortable with that and I don't want him seeing her stories because I might be on that because we always hang out and SHE DID NOT EVEN READ MY MESSAGE.
I feel like this "best friend" never been my friend. I can't believe this situation and how other people think this is normal.
She is not your friend. Period.
There is literally a lot I could say but I will just leave it at that.
There is no excuse for this.
Ghost/block/delete her. Don't give an explaination. She knows it's wrong and doesn't care.
Ps. I would bet money she "wants" him.
Everybody knows that dating your friend's ex is against the "girl code". She might not be dating him yet but she totally does want to date him. Why else would she be in touch with him?! I agree with pinkpanther, this woman is not your friend and you should ghost her.
I am really sorry that this has happened to you. It is not your fault. She sounds just awful. I hear that you say she is your only "close friend" whilst living abroad ,but it would be better to go out and meet other new friends than rely on her; maybe join some clubs or find a hobby, because this "close friend", she is showing you that she is not reliable and that she does not have your back at all.
I also see this as a safety issue. If he has access to her socials, he will have access to YOU especially if she posts and tags you on her social media. This might also mean they’re talking to each other which means there’s a chance she’ll spill details about you and your life to him.
My abusive scrote ex was blocked on everything but he recently created a new social media account and as a result it got recommended to me. I’ve now had to restrict/block two girls that I thought I was developing a real close bond with because they’ve requested to follow him despite them knowing the physical and mental abuse he did to me. Stay safe Queen.
If she does this then she's not your friend. I would never befriend anyone who mistreated even a colleague of mine. I hate abuse, I hate mistreatment and unfairness so if a friend disregard you by doing this then chances are high that she'll listen to his part of the story and believe him over you. The problem with men is that they are comfortable mistreating you but admitting that they did so is like chopping an arm off. They refuse to admit how they treated you.
This is also the reason I save and store interactions with men that I befriend or date so that nobody can label me as the "crazy one" ever again.
I had a piece of sh!t saying I was mad and triggered because he wouldn't F me but I saved the emails where he said that he's disappointed I said no to sex because that would have strengthen our bond. I warned him to stop saying this crap or ill send all the emails where he's being a shameful incel.
Her being your only support is dangerous. Let her cool off for a bit as you focus on others
My ex best friend spent 4 hours dirty dancing and tongue kissing an ex of mine at Cafe Citron in DC one night back in 2014. I couldn't leave because she was my ride and had my suitcase at her apartment. But that was the end of the friendship even though she apologized to me. I should have never forgiven her, because she just started treating me like a dog and eventually ghosted me over another guy. Stay away from desperate PickMeishas who believe they're better than you and that a guy who treated you badly is gonna treat her good. She's in competition with you over males, and there can be no friendship if that's the case.