Is this the norm now when it comes to “dating” online?

Don't do drink dates or coffee. It would have saved you the trouble to block and delete when he asked you to get drinks.

Ugh. Cringe. Block and delete.

The proper way he should have asked is "Are you available on Thursday?" Anything else is him being a lazy ass scrote trying to get you to do the work for him.

A drink date? 🙄🙄🙄

If I may ask, why are you okay with a drink date? I don't mean this in a condescending way (it could come across that way in text), I am just genuinely curious.

I’m on bumble. I’ve found that a lot of these scrotes even mention getting drinks in their profiles. Left! I don’t drink alcohol OR coffee anyway….

Amiga? Ahahaha, NAH.

I stopped using Bumble because it's the same scrotes, but now they think they are the lady. That's what he was acting like here.. you better get on the busy lady's schedule lol. They match with EVERYONE. Get an attitude if you do not put in a thoughtful message. Then, because they are acting like a bunch of girls, they unmatch as the chooser. Men can't be the chooser because they are shallow but at the same time would screw a McChicken. Since the lazy NVM match everyone sometimes they didn't even like you and will unmatch you no matter what your "thoughtful message" was. Matching is supposed to be the first intent of interest but as usual scrotes ruin everything. Your thought out message sure gave them the ego boost a pretty princess needs though. I find it even ickier than other sites for that reason.

I do drink on occasion, but if someone asks me to go drinking for a first date? That would be a hard pass. That's an immediate block and delete. The risk that he's trying to get me drunk to rape me goes up with that kind of ask. I'm not taking that chance. At the very least he's the type of guy who wants to cloud my judgement.

Only had one day, he said? Let's count the days he suggested - Thursday. That is one. Sunday. That is two. Dude either can't count, or is chatting up so many women he can't keep track of what he said to which woman. Dismissed. Next!

Next time dont tell them what they did wrong, dont tell them or hint for them on how to act. "U didnt ask when i was available" completely useless and will get u manipulated after yhey go on a date with u to use u out of boredom. Vet and evaluate them completely unattached. Be ruthless and dont try to save them

This guy sounds gross and is attempting to be "flirtatous" by making himself seem unavailable. Also, a drink date already is a no-go. Definitely a straight up NVM

He second-tiered you*in addition to* asking you out for a drink. He offered Thursday or Sunday. Date night is Saturday night.

He is either using strategy or has a date with someone else on Saturday.

No, it's not the norm. Most men on OLD are even scrotier.

Yeah "I'm available on xx date" sounds like it would be a response from the person being invited, and then the person doing the asking would pick up the ball and proceed to plan everything. When he said it, it implied that you had invited him. Like it was on you to accommodate only his availability. It rubs me the wrong way too.

Block and delete (B&D).

Keep going through that dating hay...swamp...swamp of hay or hay of swamp until you find what you're looking for. I'm so sorry.

Welcome to OLD…. and the audacity of LV men.

Best to avoid interacting past the first few messages, when they say LV shit.

Or avoid OLD altogether.

This man thinks he’s the prize (telling you when HE’S available) after inviting you on a low-effort drink date. He was undoubtedly available other days, but he’s testing the waters to see how desperate you are for male attention — thankfully you did not take the bait. He was just looking for a hookup, which is why he asked you out to drinks and only gave you one evening of availability. This is the norm on Bumble, but next time just unmatch with no explanation when someone acts like this.

It shouldn't be the norm. He is treating you like a bro who should be so thankful to have a slice of his time 🙄 for drinks! Ooooh big deal. Cheap, impersonal, low effort, and potentially predatory (to get you intoxicated and lower your standards). So many men on OLD are like this-- setting a tone that turns women off then acting confused when we are not attracted and don't want to have anything romantic or sexual with them....

ETA: I would read the handbook again once or twice, and reconsider Bumble because it attracts non-pursuers/LVM. He needs to come correct with effort, such as "I have enjoyed our conversation and would like to take you out for dinner. What do you think about going to this Indian place? Are you available Saturday?" Beware if men who are off on weekends but schedule weeknight dates. It means you are a backburner option and not 1st choice.

This is the most annoying thing I've read all week.

I would never swallow the libfem Kool-Aid and try to find a partner on Bumble.

The roles have reversed and men are becoming women. I would have deleted him instantly.