When a date is actually a job interview for an unpaid mommy mcbangmaid role. 🫣
Married Stepmoms are the least happy cohort of all women. So many women are out there raising children to whom they have zero parental rights, and are one breakup away from never seeing those children ever again. One of the biggest emotional risks a woman could ever take and nobody talks about it.
It really is horrific. It's bad enough that they don't care about the feelings of the stepmom who raised their daughter for years but they are also so selfish, cruel and careless about the feelings of their own children. They are literally ripping them away from the only mother they have known out of pure spite. Imagine considering your own spite and punishing your ex partner who did nothing wrong more important than the feelings and wellbeing of your child.
That's heartbreaking 😞😥 Rest assured, that girl will hate her father forever and will constantly search for her mom. I've seen adoption stories where all they had was a piece of paper and they still found their beloved child...your aunt will come out on top
The daughter tries to communicate with her via social media sporadically but it's pretty clear that she gets in real trouble if the dad catches her, so my aunt tries not to encourage it too much (even though her heart is breaking) because she doesn't want the her to get punished. She lives in the hope that she will look for her once she turns 18 (but it's a few more years until then) and they will be reunited. She still has photos of her displayed in her apartment. All the milestones they celebrated together: birthdays, first day of school...
It's so tragic. My aunt used to say that the universe brought them together and gave her a child to love and raise because she couldn't have her own children and now this😥
He can’t afford childcare for one night, red flag. He doesn’t want to get to know her, he wants to see how she handles being around his child. He‘s testing her. Gross.
He doesn't want a partner, he wants free childcare+the social status that comes from being married.
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Red flags are relatively easy to spot, but Green Flags can only be confirmed with time. A few I have found reliable:
- Consistency: he honors his word, and regularly invests in you time and emotionally. The relationship progresses actively but gradually (no love-bombing, and no permanent forever-gf limbo). If he can't make something, he will let you know AND make follow-up plans.
- Integrity: NOT just to you: to his family, friends, neighbors, waitstaff etc. He treats everyone with respect and dignity. He has HVW friends (who are TRULY friends); some FDSers might disagree on this, but I think a man with absolutely no HVW friends is a red flag, and a man who surrounds himself with a "harem" of women "friends" is also a red flag lol
- Respectful of your boundaries: does not push/ pressure you, and if he does not understand something he can ask for clarification, but never in a way that is demeaning. He will not rush into even simple physical intimacy like hand-holding, kissing etc if you're not comfortable
- Ambitious/ driven: he has goals/ hopes/ dreams hobbies of his own
- Proven track record: he has healthy, long-standing relationships with friends and at work with people who are similarly high-value.
More than likely it's men with kids who are agreeing with this. I hope the mother of the child sees this to update the custody agree to make sure their child isn't around gfs until 12 months of dating.
This right here for the sisters who have to co-parent. There's no reason why he should be putting his child around a woman he just met. For the child, it's higher risk of abuse. For the woman, he's likely just in it for a free nanny.
Likewise, if you have children and are dating, vet extremely well. Stepfathers are the most likely abusers. They shouldn't ever be near your child until you are 100% sure.
Sooo many red flags. He probably only has his child every other weekend. So instead of spending one on one time with them he goes on dates and brings them along.
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Simply put, I am not looking to meet (much less raise) anyone’s bastard* children.
* Not all children are bastards, technically, but this is what I think every time I see a single father on OLD. Do not lecture me on semantics.
The woman in the video did the right thing by shaming this man for bringing his bastard daughter on a date. It seems like he didn’t even provide a warning?
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I don't understand how those examples don't make sense. If you want to be purposefully dense, I can't help you.
I don't need semantic precision when expressing contempt for a man who didn't think twice before fathering a child. I have heard men refer to single mothers' children as bastards on many occasions, even if those women were married when they gave birth to the children. Men do not give women any slack, and men do not care about semantics, so why should I?
It won't hurt the children if they don't hear it, which is why I do not advocate calling them bastards to their face. I have no problem calling them bastards to their fathers' faces, though. Don't try to change my mind.
Again: I will not refrain from referring to the children of single men as bastards. If you don't like it, you do you.
Something about his face screams PORNSICK. The dead eyes, the RBF. I bet he does a lot of unsavory things in front of his daughter, and I wouldn't be surprised if she became a pickme. The cycle perpetuates.
🚩🚩🚩I WAS JUST GONNA POST ABOUT THIS!!! Except it was a different scrote.
This is absolutely vile. single mothers get dragged for "getting a revolving door of men in their kids lives so they will have broken attachment systems" yet men get to do it!! It's been a thing in dating book since like the 50s. Men with no game should bring young kids and puppies to dates so she will fall for their "caring nature". There's also the fact that they're both young. He wasted his life getting a woman pregnant, he is just looking for a mommy on his weekend. Men have long parasitized women for childcare, cooking, cleaning, Etc. I hope she gets to go party and have fun whole she is still young. And that's another point, he couldn't schedule literally ANY other day? It shows bad parenting or using his literal child as bait. Either way, he is a scrote. If a single mother did this, she would get BASHED for being a "gold digger" who is just looking for "an ATM" for her kid. Sorry for the wall of text, I'm just so mad that this cute lil girl is subject to her scrote dads dating strategies.
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When a date is actually a job interview for an unpaid mommy mcbangmaid role. 🫣
Married Stepmoms are the least happy cohort of all women. So many women are out there raising children to whom they have zero parental rights, and are one breakup away from never seeing those children ever again. One of the biggest emotional risks a woman could ever take and nobody talks about it.
He can’t afford childcare for one night, red flag. He doesn’t want to get to know her, he wants to see how she handles being around his child. He‘s testing her. Gross.
Like what is with these men today. That child looks very young and here he is on a date. Looking for a stepmomma for his daughter.
Red flags are relatively easy to spot, but Green Flags can only be confirmed with time. A few I have found reliable:
- Consistency: he honors his word, and regularly invests in you time and emotionally. The relationship progresses actively but gradually (no love-bombing, and no permanent forever-gf limbo). If he can't make something, he will let you know AND make follow-up plans.
- Integrity: NOT just to you: to his family, friends, neighbors, waitstaff etc. He treats everyone with respect and dignity. He has HVW friends (who are TRULY friends); some FDSers might disagree on this, but I think a man with absolutely no HVW friends is a red flag, and a man who surrounds himself with a "harem" of women "friends" is also a red flag lol
- Respectful of your boundaries: does not push/ pressure you, and if he does not understand something he can ask for clarification, but never in a way that is demeaning. He will not rush into even simple physical intimacy like hand-holding, kissing etc if you're not comfortable
- Ambitious/ driven: he has goals/ hopes/ dreams hobbies of his own
- Proven track record: he has healthy, long-standing relationships with friends and at work with people who are similarly high-value.
He's already testing her to see if she would be a good step-mommy. Typical scrote behavior.
Second red flag, he invited her out to a diner.
More than likely it's men with kids who are agreeing with this. I hope the mother of the child sees this to update the custody agree to make sure their child isn't around gfs until 12 months of dating.
What is wrong with the people in the comments section on YouTube? I haven't seen ONE comment on how much of a red flag this is.
Poor kid
Sooo many red flags. He probably only has his child every other weekend. So instead of spending one on one time with them he goes on dates and brings them along.
Simply put, I am not looking to meet (much less raise) anyone’s bastard* children.
* Not all children are bastards, technically, but this is what I think every time I see a single father on OLD. Do not lecture me on semantics.
The woman in the video did the right thing by shaming this man for bringing his bastard daughter on a date. It seems like he didn’t even provide a warning?
Something about his face screams PORNSICK. The dead eyes, the RBF. I bet he does a lot of unsavory things in front of his daughter, and I wouldn't be surprised if she became a pickme. The cycle perpetuates.
🚩🚩🚩I WAS JUST GONNA POST ABOUT THIS!!! Except it was a different scrote.
This is absolutely vile. single mothers get dragged for "getting a revolving door of men in their kids lives so they will have broken attachment systems" yet men get to do it!! It's been a thing in dating book since like the 50s. Men with no game should bring young kids and puppies to dates so she will fall for their "caring nature". There's also the fact that they're both young. He wasted his life getting a woman pregnant, he is just looking for a mommy on his weekend. Men have long parasitized women for childcare, cooking, cleaning, Etc. I hope she gets to go party and have fun whole she is still young. And that's another point, he couldn't schedule literally ANY other day? It shows bad parenting or using his literal child as bait. Either way, he is a scrote. If a single mother did this, she would get BASHED for being a "gold digger" who is just looking for "an ATM" for her kid. Sorry for the wall of text, I'm just so mad that this cute lil girl is subject to her scrote dads dating strategies.