Is this a block and delete situation?

Yup. I also feel that’s the situation. I also feel like the friend part is just a lame excuse for: “Sorry, I have a hookup plan that’s more important than this call with you”

Could be anything really and who cares. Point is, he isn't jumping through hoops to talk to you. Level of interest is back burner to whatever else he has going on.

I look forward to reading it!

Please do!!! This will be so useful 🙏🏻

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽There is absolutely energy behind text messages and emails.

A. He could have just picked up the phone. “Hey, Ive only got 5 minutes to chat but wanted to check in.”

b. He could have sent you a link for a zoom chat. (Like you did.)

You don’t know this man. The best case scenario is that he is lazy and passive.

The NUMBER 1 hallmark of a toxic situation is confusion. You are confused before even meeting.

Moving forward, do no text first, do not remind a man that he wanted to set up a phone call and if you have to analyze his text BEFORE even meeting block and delete.

Final note, men do this on purpose. He is putting you on reserves and will maybe come on strong later in the hopes you will lower your guard by him putting in very little effort or following through on what he said he would do.

Welcome to FDS😘

Exactly, he should've reached out again. "Everything a man loves, he takes care of".

Do you think just moving on with my life and ghosting him if he reaches out can be a good strategy? I really just want to show myself I can do these kind of things even though I liked the person. I’m kind of new to FDS, so any advice is super valuable 🙏🏻

By ghosting him (I'd also block and delete) you're protecting yourself and that should be your top priority.

He's already displaying red flags and you haven't even had a single date with him yet.

He, like most men, isn't a HVM. You're not losing out on anything by moving on from him.

Yeah, you liked him.. Even though I don't know how you can like someone you haven't even met and vetted enough. It's more important that the guy likes you, only then will he treat you as you deserve to be treated.

I've been in the same boat as you many times and I'm still learning new things every day.

Agree - I would also block and delete. This one will waste OP's time and then act oblivious.

You are 100% right. God, what a loser 🤢 And here I was believing him and his “take as much time as you need, let’s talk a bunch” I actually remembered what he told me several days ago and I didn’t think too much of it He told me that he’s the least toxic guy in town and that I should stop talking to other men 🤡🤡🤡

You're the toxic men, you are

We’ve been talking for around a month and the signs until now have been positive: - within 2 days after matching on OLD he invited me out to dinner, which I had to reschedule - was consistent in communication, even though I was already out of the city - was understanding about me saying that I need more time talking with him until I meet him and said we can talk as much as I feel comfortable, that there is no rush - showed genuine interest and asked a lot of questions about me during calls - seemed like loves his family and has a lot of friends in committed long-term relationships

Please be extra careful. So many criminals are on the dating apps. I read an article yesterday (can’t find the link) about predators using OLD exclusively to hunt for their victims. It’s terrifying.

🎯I cannot think of a single person that I regret blocking. And the farther I get, the more I see and trust that they deserved it.

Blocking is a rational digital boundary in an unprecedented time where men have access to women like never before. In the past they had to risk a phone call 🤣 (20 years ago) or go to woman’s house and deal with her family. It is because barriers and consequences have been removed that we see the depravity now.