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In the past, I played around with OLD. I didn't come across any guy I was particularly interested in. I've noticed how the male profiles were either too good to be true, had several undesirable traits, or were basically blank. I didn't move past small talk for any guy.
I'm now at a point in life where I am busy and don't want to join activities to meet men. There are matchmakers in my area but they are all expensive and I've heard of matchmakers being scammy. For OLD, there are all these stories of men there turning out to be cheaters or catfishes but is it worth the shot again?
Also, how do conversations on OLD work? At one point you want to have an interesting conversation but you also don't want to reveal too much about yourself to a complete stranger. Is it also a good idea to Skype or have a phone call before meeting? How long should you talk to a guy before agreeing to meet him irl?
Join your local facebook ‘Are we dating the same guy’__<your_city_name>
The women who post there are so broken from their desperation to find a man, any man who then cheats, beats, and spends her money to be trapped in a miserable existence. These are local guys so it will ward you off the fallacy that there are “good” guys in your city who aren’t raging dumpster fires of misogyny.
Something to keep in mind for when you convince yourself that OLD is a good idea and you’re left wondering why so-and-so would lie by omission to get sex, etc….here is an article that outlines *WHY* IN MEN’S OWN WORDS they continue to abuse:
https://voicemalemagazine.org/abusive-men-describe-the-benefits-of-violence/
Abusive Men Describe the Benefits of Male Violence IN THEIR OWN WORDS
Here is a list of the benefits they cited:
She’s scared
Respect
She won’t argue
Feeling superior: she’s accountable to me in terms of being somewhere on time: I decide
Keeps relationship going—she’s too scared to leave
Get the money
Get sex
Total control in decision making
***There is NO incentive for men to change their behavior when they get all these rewards for it*** Men don't pick the women that are already broken by this abuse, they pick the strong ones for added benefit of the ego boost of breaking her. Be especially aware of the charming ones, they choose their victims wisely.
_________Other things to keep in mind in regards to your OLD male profile pics
Misogynists don’t write dating profiles for women, they write them to impress other men. They do this because they won’t “”lower”” themselves to appeal to women; they don’t value or respect a woman’s perspective or opinion. That is why they ignore the literally thousands of articles online that explain how to take good profile pics or how to write a good profile.
A bad, low effort profile and/or picture shouts that they do not care if women like their appearance or personality because he doesn’t care if she likes him as that is not a pre-requisite of him fucking her. She isn’t the “picker” if sex occurs, he is
If how a woman feels about his personality or looks isn’t a prerequisite to sex, any hole will do, you aren’t special and he isn’t going to stop swiping for yours. No one has the magical pussy to make a man treat her like a full human with feelings.
Do not ignore low effort gym, beach, boat, fish, bed otherwise shirtless or angry face pictures. Do not ignore profiles that have "open to short term" even when paired with long term. The "Long Term" tag is an attempt to deflect from their 'free emotional and physical prostitute' desires.
Is visiting the landfill worth it? There's your answer, my friend.
Imo ….. NOPE. I’m experiencing the opposite where I’m just finished with it. OLD has only been one bad experience after another. Your description of the profiles is pretty accurate— either too good to be true, or riddled with red flags.
The other thing that irks me is how ugly the men are, it’s like they don’t even try. And when you do find a cute one his profile almost always says “Not looking for anything serious” or “Figuring it out”. The attractive ones know they’re in demand so they have no reason to commit.
Perhaps I sound cynical, but my experience is that it’s like looking for a needle in a haystack and I don’t have the energy to do that!
I can't even remember the last time I looked on these apps. Honestly it's not worth it. Most of the men at least my age are fugly. I'm not attracted to 99% of them. I've seen better looking men in the street when I'm out. I can count on one hand how many times I swiped right for all the apps combined. I'm sick of them looking for not sure, wants kids but doesn't know what kind of relationship they want, I'm sick of the terrible photos...seriously how fucking hard is it to take a good photo....I'm sick of the empty, lazy profiles, I'm sick of Hi, Hey, What's up, WYD, etc.
Someone in my area started a FB group of recommending the quality single men they knew who were genuinely looking for a relationship, in the hope of matching him with a woman in the group.
One woman posted her friend and vouched for his good character and his perfect manners. A few woman recognised him as a known ice dealer (which this woman knew and insisted we shouldn't judge him on that)
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Honestly, no. Not worth it. OLD is a landfill and you will only come out of there with empty hands and smelling of garbage.
I was recently helping the young lady who paints for me set up a profile on Hinge on her lunch break and the men are just ...... yuck. If they are even a minimum of cute there's blatant red flags in their bio or it's obvious they just want to hook up. We swiped for a solid 30 mins, and the only two somewhat acceptable matches were way far away. We were having lunch in the city too, so it's not like we were out in our home county where I'm pretty much related to and grew up with the 5 or so available men within 20 miles 🤣
So far all of them want Coffee dates. Or worse a drive around the park and then drop you back home. I don't know if it will be worth it.
Girl, it never is lol
Right now, if you open an account, there’s going to be lots of guys who are lonely due to the holidays. After that, you’re not going to find much.
You’re better off meeting men offline or continuing life as is until someone comes along.
This is how I'm feeling at the mo. Interested to hear what everyone has to say
Read the handbook. It goes over strategies like this. Yes do video call