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A month ago, I posted about ending my friendship with my friends that I knew over decade because I felt like they were treating me as their nanny for the past 6 months.
A month has passed. I have gone no contact and I’m mourning the loss of our friendship. Guess what? She sends an emotionally charged video of a child getting assaulted. For a week, I wondered why she would do this. After going no contact for month, the first thing she sends me is this video, like why?
Someone told me that it’s a form of emotional manipulation to get me reconnect with her but on her terms. I’m still wrapping my head around this, but what does FDS think?
It could be possible as abusers do this, but I don’t see her as one.
That "someone" is right. She's trying to emotionally manipulate you. I recommend you not thinking about why she did things, in 'Men Who Hates Women and Women who Loves Them', Susan Forward said that the first thing an abuser do is make themselves seems mysterious to make the victim focus on the 'why' and not on the action currently being done. Wondering about a deeper meaning of an abuser is detrimental to you and makes you vulnerable to trauma bond.