Is long drive date a LV date? How to practically do scrotation when you have limited time?

I am a working woman in mid-twenties. After months of therapy, I feel finally ready to start dating seriously again. My last relationship was 2.7 years ago. I have been single since then and have been practicing abstinence because haven't found anyone worthy to go on a third date yet, let alone be intimate.

So recently I started dating again and have been trying to follow FDS. I met this guy on OLD who's from IT background like me, 4 years elder, 6'0 feet tall, makes good money and a good lifestyle. I went on a first date with him at an upscale Pub, though I don't drink, I wanted to try this place. Our conversation was okay but very lop sided. He spoke 80% of the time, didn't ask me thoughtful questions except regurgitating the same questions I asked him. I usually try to pick mid-range places for dates, but it was on the higher side, and I honestly did not know. But he paid like a gentleman. Tipped the waitstaff, held doors. We danced and had a good time. He tried to hold my hand and touch my waist and hug me. I was okay with it as we were dancing anyway so did not feel uncomfortable. He brought me flowers while dropping me home. Also, I live in a conservative locality in a hostel, and we have in time, and it is not acceptable for women to return so late at night. It was 12.20 AM. So, he offered that I could come his home. I said some other day. I realized that he did spend a lot that night but I can't just go over his place. I would rather go to a hotel. I told him to be nice that if they don't allow me to enter, I would come back with him.

Anyway, thankfully, my landlord let me in and guys he waited till I got in because he was hoping i would go home with him. I am glad I did not. He said he has uninstalled the dating app and is only seeing me. I still want to keep dating on rotation, but I have a question. I am a fairly attractive young women and I get a lot of attention and date requests, online and offline. But I don't want to go on 2-3 dates per week. This guy would want to see me every weekend and maybe me too. I am an introvert, and I have my hobbies and dreams, so I don't know how in practicality HVW women are dating on rotation? Like if you like one guy, and he asks you every weekend and you are free so you go out? or you go on 1 date per week, and whosoever made the best date plan or put in most effort you go with them?

Also, I have one more question, for the next date he was hinting at a long drive date with dinner at a drive-in place. I am not comfortable with long drives and find it to be passive and boring and also highly unsafe. I have bad memories of men trying to get too sexual with me or demanding things because of the seclusion of a car. Also, I don't think dressing up for a drive date is worth it. And he will definitely try to get more intimate with me and I don't want to trigger my SA trauma or worse experience it again. You say that first few dates set the precedent of a relationship. After first date at an upscale place, it feels very cheap. So, should I tell him that long drives make me uncomfortable and suggest something else? Or drop the plan and tell him I am busy and see someone else.

A last question, is there an exception to never text first rule? like if he initiates conversation every day or every other day and I don't hear from him one day, is it okay if I text first? Or after a certain time has passed, I can initiate conversation sometime?