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I don't want to give too many details at the moment, but the event is not explicitly designed to pair singles up. It is to lift their spirits up and provide fellowship through various activities. However, I can't stop feeling like it's a de facto meat market. I don't want to go there worrying that some guy who I have no interest in whatsoever is going to approach me to have a conversation - or, if there is a guy I'm interested in, another woman will try to deflect his attention away from me. I don't see how any of this will work.
The event is being coordinated by various churches in the state, and I'm sure it's a response to singles saying that their churches don't do anything to cater to them, but I don't need to be specifically catered to in THIS manner either. I guess if someone wants to go, then they can have at it, but this makes my brain pause. Am I being a "beggars can't be choosers" person? That is, do I have a right to complain that "singles aren't catered to," yet not want to go to this "meat market"?
I think "beggars can't be choosers" applies more to pick mes.
We don't beg, we choose.
If the church is providing only quantity but you are looking for the finest quality then it's not your fault in the least.
Trust your instincts. Regardless of the host, such events are very rarely considered to produce good results for women.
I think your frustration is perfectly justified. As someone who is trying to find a fellow Christian (and I’m not assuming that you are, necessarily), I have learned that church events seem to draw in a lot of older, lonely men with very poor social skills. I noticed the same thing when I was involved in politics.
Just out of curiosity, what do you feel churches could be doing to help singles pair up? I’ve noticed the same thing — they seem to almost idolize marriage yet don’t do much to actually help people find spouses. I’ve always thought that offering a singles group once a week, where you get to know people over time, would be a great idea, but churches just don’t do this. Plus I would like to make more single female friends since most women at church are married.
Males don't allow ANY opportunity go to waste in the pursuit of a woman. So yes, be prepared to have many males approach you during this event. Since when do males GAF about rules? Fuck, I've had scrotes try to pick me up on ebay and offer up apps that have nothing to do with dating! I've been playing my poker games on my phone and some scrote will try to DM me through the app. They are ruthless and don't GAF. So get ready for them to approach you at a singles gathering for sure.
Ha, from the sound of it, if I were you I would have the same doubts.
Let's see, these churches usually don't give much of a crap about their single congregants. So it's a safe guess they tend to want everyone to get coupled up. Now they're doing this event that they claim(?) is "not designed to pair singles up".
It's a trap! 😆
It's like even if they're making an honest effort to cater to you, they're still not really catering to you, they're still pushing what they want over what you want.
If you have doubts, I wouldn't go.