is it possible to have a provider, protector, and a man who is romantic without having to ask?

This is how to works. It has to be inside them already for them to do it. If you have to ask, beg, plead or train, that's LVM. A HVM will just DO, without hesitation.

Impossible. My grandma told me that 3 men equals 1.

I mean… yeah, obviously, HVM are rare. It does seem like the men with money don't bother being romantic, and those who are romantic only are to compensate for their lack of money. It's all about keeping a woman with the least effort possible. Yes, most men are like that. My partner is definitely very romantic and also generous, and doesn't demand 50/50. But he is probably not the kind of provider many women on FDS want (the one who'll pay all your bills even outside of income differences, kids or cohabitation), which is a trade-off I am willing to make as I'm not looking for a “full provider” anyway. That said he did fully provide for his ex when she couldn't work, so I know he'll do it when his partner needs the support. Long story short, I do think selfless men exist, but they are few and far between, and the more selflessness you want, the longer you have to search.

Yes, I married one! I reached a point in my life where I was putting myself first always and he came along. I did A LOT of self growth and evaluation before I got to that point. Hours of journaling, meditating, lone walks, reading and of course FDS. Filtering out LVM is key to finding HVM. I went on so many bad dates, let me tell you.....Level up, level up, level up and DO NOT negotiate on your standards. This tough world will get you down so find your happy places even if they're totally weird or nerdy to everyone else. Don't neglect your family and spending time with people you love. HVM can see high level women miles off and will walk across air for them.

Im currently a stay at home wife with no kids. I’m studying to finish my degree soon. My husband is always working toward being a better partner. He pays all of our bills, just bought me a new car, tells me how much he appreciates me, and has no problem doing things in the house or outside of the house. He takes me out to celebrate my exam scores, and admires the effort I put into studying. He’s fit (competes in combat sports), honest, and romantic. So, yes, I’d say it is possible!

i really really really want to believe.😫🦄

I know some men who are both romantic and providers. My dad, for example, also my uncle and my brother and my brother-in-law... So, they exist but I can't seem to find one for myself so I don't know.

My dad . But no other males in my family. Or any I’ve ever dated, that’s for damned sure.

Yes, it's possible. A man who provides has a generous mindset. He will pay attention to the fact that you appreciate romantic gestures as well, and he will follow suit. A man who thinks money can substitute gestures, then he's breadcrumbing. I'll either leave or I will become pretty exacting and robotic with him as well (basically, match his energy and nothing more).

I am curious about this because some people have different "love language" to others. I dated a man when I was in my twenties who said that "doing" was his "love language"... he would fix things for me, pick me up from anywhere in the world, fly to my side if I needed him but thought that "flowers are easy and a cliche"... He was dxsylexic so no love letters.. but I'd like to discuss this further... not everyone has the same idea of romance...? Since then I've had a mixed bag of romantic gestures, but I have also met and heard through friends that a lot of men today think that compliments are sexist and flowers are an easy cliche... discuss....?

Possible? Yes. Probable? No.

And unfortunately, that's why HVM are exceedingly rare. 😒