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I know women from older generations who met HVM via being set up by friends. However, it seems like being set up has changed these days. Nowadays it often involves parents trying to set attractive women up with their LV sons or people trying to set random people up together as they think as they think being in a random relationship is better than being single.
I can't help but feel like if a man if HV, he doesn't need to be set up as he can probably easily find a girlfriend irl. Even LVM who are wealthy or attractive probably also have no difficulty in attracting women. The men who need to be set up are probably single for a reason...
My attitude towards set-ups is that it depends on the person setting you up. IMO the person setting you up should know you fairly well because, let's face it, a stranger is not going to know what sort of man would be a good fit for you. Also the friend setting you up needs to be a high value woman. A low value woman or a pick-me is only going to set you up with a low value man because they're using the same criteria for you that they'd use for themselves. Sometimes a pick-me will set you up with a low value man because she expects you to play Barb the Builder without any consideration for what YOU might want.
This was several years ago but I’ll never forget when a former coworker of mine tried setting me up with her brother. Let’s see, he…had been in jail, did drugs, got into Buddhism and thought himself an iNtElLeCtUaL of the highest degree, was already balding at the time (mid-twenties), was aggressively pro-life and pro-guns, and when I told him I wasn’t interested in going out with him, he tried to spin it as if I just wasn’t ready for the kind of relationship he had to offer, whatever that meant lol.
In retrospect, my coworker was a mess too, so I shouldn’t have been surprised she would think setting me up with her gross ass brother was okay. I imagine set ups are still a thing, but experience (because it’s happened and failed more than once) has turned me completely off from the idea.
My neighbour tried to set my up with her son years ago. I don't live there anymore and he seemed nice and all but I don't know, it was awkward.😓
My friend told me how her friends parents (they're Hungarian) set her up with a guy from Hungary who is in the US on a student visa. She asked him why he wants to marry her and he said "to get a green card". 🙄🙄🙄